Hello,
I'm Morgan and I'm almost 16 years old but I was wondering if needing to be clean and obsessed with being the perfect daughter, freien, sibling, and student is normal. I have to be all thoser things otherwise I don't really feel acepted by anyone. I ned everything in the right spot or I can't think strraight. I'm not sure if this is normal. I clean everything everyday and it takes control over your life. Ya know. So is this me being a normal teenage girl or is this something more?
Thanks so much for your time,
Thanks agian,
Morgan
I'm Morgan and I'm almost 16 years old but I was wondering if needing to be clean and obsessed with being the perfect daughter, freien, sibling, and student is normal. I have to be all thoser things otherwise I don't really feel acepted by anyone. I ned everything in the right spot or I can't think strraight. I'm not sure if this is normal. I clean everything everyday and it takes control over your life. Ya know. So is this me being a normal teenage girl or is this something more?
Thanks so much for your time,
Thanks agian,
Morgan
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Answers
Hi Morgan! Wondering about "normal" and "average" and comparing ourselves to others can get us into mental anguish at times, and not a really good thing to do. But paying attention to yourself and wondering if there are things that you can change to help others accept you better, that's probably okay. ;)
Having to keep things exactly as you want them could be a type of compulsion or obsession, yes. Sometimes all it is can be linked to needing to have some CONTROL in your own life. Teenagers especially find that their parents and teachers all run their lives, and they feel like they have no say in anything. If the feelings are strong, and the opposition (parent?) is demanding, then such actions like you talk about could develop.
If you have someone to talk with such as a counselor or favorite teacher, this might help. See if you can find other ways of controlling your life, making many small decisions of your own, and see if that lessens your need to organize just "so."
take care
drjean
Drjean,
Thanks so much for replying I really apricate it, you have no idea how much. I'm just really lost and I'm really sick of everyone saying, oh its just a phase, when it's not. This is my life and I've been living this way for a long time now. The feelings that I have are strong and they do interfere with my life. I wory about everything being perfect and clean and just right 24 hours a day. I don't go to bed at night unless my room is clean. I atepmt to vacume my room atleast every other day. I just get so obsesive with it and it gets hard to control sometimes. I'm afraid to talk to someone about this becuase its sooo out of left feild for them because I'm so good at putting up a fake me and making it seam everything is just fine when its not. If I tell anyone they are going to be SHOCKED!!! I'm not good at handling any type of emotion. Happy, sad, depressed, angry, anything. I just never know what to do ya know.
Anyways thanks so much for taking time out of i'm sure your very busy life to answer my question.
I really apriciate it.
Thanks agian,
Fashiongurl
(((Fashiongurl)))
How are you feeling today? Havent heard from you in awhile. It is very much sounding like obsessions and compulsions, and it probably would not hurt to discuss this with a T.
I do think it is a good thing that you cannot hide your true feelings. I wish more people were that way, cause I think less people would be "fake," but at least you are seeing things you can work on.
Keep working, see if you can find a T to talk to about your issues, and do something good for yourself.
Best,
Clyde