Hello my name is Jennifer. I am a really young girl, I still go to High School. So about 2 months ago my life got ruined. My about 9 months boyfriend and i broke up...It was really hard for me..i depended on him for any little thing and he was the most interesting happening in my life, i was able to talk to him about anything. So what happend that my life got ruined was that after we broke up for a dubm reason he kept talking to me but then i found out he had a new girlfriend...So when i first seen them together at school i burst out with tears at school for the very first time...I felt really bad. I still hang out with him once in a while and he kinda shows me that he still cares about me, the way he talked to me...but i cant take it no more i really really want him back, Eventhough im still young i dont really wanna deal with any other guy, i know hes the right one...besides the fact that we almost had a kid!, we werent sure if we were pregnant but it ended up being that we were not...but we had even talked about out future...so no i want him back but i dont really know how i could tell him knowing he has a girlfriend....and i dont have no one to talk to about my problems...
What can i do????
What can i do????
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Yes, I agree with both of the ladies. You could mention it to him, but please don't expect anything either way. If it would work out for you, that is great news, but if it doesn't, at least you haven't set yourself up to face great news and end up with a great disappointment.
Best of luck, and Keep In touch...
Clyde
(((Jennypunk))) I know how your heart hurts about this. I'm sorry to have to tell you that it's a normal part of growing up, of high school, and life in general.
I'm glad you still get to see and talk with him. Why not just tell him you're still hung up on him? I don't know that it would change how he feels about you, and about his new girlfriend, but at least you'll know he knows!
You say you depended upon him for everything. You have to know that is not a good thing for you. To have a really good relationship, each person needs to be complete within him/herself, really not needing the other but wanting to add the other to compliment him/herself.
Why not spend more time working on who you are, what you want in life, building as many friendships as you can, and even seeing the school counselor to help you through all this? I think you find that you won't be needing to wallow in this guy's shadow, but able to make one of your own!
tc
drjean
Hey!I'm sorry to hear about you and your ex. It sounds like you took it pretty rough, which is understandable. Just don't forget that you have the rest of your life to do stuff, don't waste all your time on him, okay? It's good that you guys are still friends, that might make this easier. Try to sit him down alone, when he has time to talk, and tell him how you feel. Don't overwhelm him or pressure him, but make sure he knows you still love him. If you do get back together, i suggest you take it slowly. I'd be happy to listen to you anytime, if you EVER need to talk, you can e-mail me at l7_hay@hotmail.com
Best of luck, let us know how everything goes,
Leanne