Let me start off by saying I'm an 18 year old high school senior graduating in 4 weeks.. about to head off to a college. I can't get my mind off the fact that I'm almost done with the high school stress (mainly from teachers). I'm a Web Designer working from home, so I'm always home when my parents walk through the door in the afternoons. They always bicker about the stupid stuff and my mother never has a calm voice about anything... it's always YELL YELL YELL. It just annoys me so much that I just stay in my room and continue working, or play a game or watch tv. Yes, I'll admit I'm not the greatest son. But today... something just through my over the edge. My mom aggravated me and I made a comment "and that's why I'm moving out!" That's when all hell broke loose and my parents said apologize or move out. How do I apologize when I feel that my moving out soon is the right thing to do, so I can grow up and enjoy the freedom of not being told what to do 24/7? Am I wrong for thinking this? I guess it's just that I can't get the fact that only 4 more weeks left and I'll be in college.. and I'm sick of being treated like a baby being told what to do, and not having all the stress that comes with school. But I find myself having MORE stress at home.
I just feel that all of my actions come from my parents. Could this be? I feel like telling my dad that I'll start acting right if he starts being cooperative with my mother and stop always bickering about stupid things.
What should I do?
I just feel that all of my actions come from my parents. Could this be? I feel like telling my dad that I'll start acting right if he starts being cooperative with my mother and stop always bickering about stupid things.
What should I do?
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Howdy there.
Of course, you are superly stressed out. You parents are always bickering, and you feel like you have nowhere to go or nowhere to run.
It can be that a lot of your aggravation does come from your parents, yes. But you also have to think that your parents probably are a big reason why you aren't hungry a lot of the time, or aren't cold, tired, etc.
Are you self-sufficient from the web-designing? That would be so cool if you are. However, if you are not, you have to be careful with what you say.
You should always respect your parents--as long as they don't abuse you or the like--but you can also find ways to deal with the aggravation.
Discuss with them separately how the yelling bothers you and see if they could tone it down some.
Perhaps college is the best for you at the time. It may be a rough time, having to live on your own (if you are doing so), but it may also be a great thing--being independent.
I hope it works out for you!
Clyde