My boyfriend is going through a very long divorce. Even though he tries to help and listen to my requests, I find myself becoming more and more depressed over the how long the divorce is taking and the possibility of him paying alimony to his ex wife. I understand that I will have to accept certain things but I feel like it will take away all our choices moving forward. He won't be able to move or get a different job depending on how much he will have to pay her. I feel like she is controlling my life. I would like to have a family and because I'm a bit older I am not comfortable with waiting too long so I feel that this choice will be decided for me. What can I do to try and cope with all this as its happening.
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this is a difficult time for you and him it can be time consuming and so forth divorce is not meant to be easy but you have to be supportive and he should do the same for you talk to him see if that helps
Hi there...
Have you discussed this with him? I am not saying you have or haven't, but I do notice a lot of the people who do ask these questions are the same ones who do not communicate their feelings to those who are most important to them in their lives.
If you have discussed this to him, what does he think about it?
I know you don't want to sit around and wait for it to happen, but as far as the divorce part of it goes, that is about all you can do, sadly.
Here are some links that may help--they apply more to your boyfriend, but you may find some usefulness in them...please be sure to discuss stuff with him, if you havent.
Best of luck,
Clyde
LINKS:
http://www.divorcehope.com/helpingfriendthroughdivorce.htm
http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/feelings/help_child_divorce.html (this one is for kids, but it still has some good advice)
http://enrichmentjournal.ag.org/200003/054_helping_divorced.cfm
http://fatherhood.about.com/cs/divorceddads/a/helping_divorce.htm
http://ezinearticles.com/?Helping-Your-Child-Through-Your-Divorce&id=1082002