I'm having a few problems, see the thing is I really need to talk to someone. But I can't because I'm so afraid of being in a vulnerable position that I won't let myself do it. I'm afraid that if I tell someone what I'm feeling or what I'm going through that there just going to tell all the wrong people and that would crush me. I can't risk being in that vulnerable position. But I have sooo many things inside my head, I don't know what to do. I really, really, really need tips on how to be okay with opening up to someone without thinking the entire time that there going to go tell my parents or the counselor or someone in that nature. You know sometime you just need to vent and let everything out, but I'm afraid and not sure what to do. If anyone, anyone at all could give me any tips on how not to be afraid of telling someone how I'm feeling it would be so very appreciated. Like you have no idea how much I need to do this. But it scares the living crap out of me to have those kinds of conversations. I get very very nervous and figit-e and I can't get the words to come out. I have no idea what to do anymore and could use any advice anyone is willing to give me.
Thanks so much for you time,
It is very much appreciated,
Thanks so much,
Fashiongurl
Thanks so much for you time,
It is very much appreciated,
Thanks so much,
Fashiongurl
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Answers
Hi Morgan,
A lot of times, what happens to us when we are afraid to talk, etc. is that a lot of times we either are so hurt (of course), but that we want to find a "perfect person" to let out all of the fears/anger/upset that we have.
One of the best things to do, my friend, is to even start small to a trusted friend of yours, or to a counselor, etc. as Jakribu mentioned.
Start very small...such as, "I am afraid of those kind of guys," or whatever a small fear may be...then you can continue to build up over time. It never all happens at once.
Please keep talking. :)
Best,
Clyde
Jakribu,
I wouldn't even know who to talk to becuase I really have'nt done this in a very very long time. It scares the living crap out of me. I'm so afraid to be vunlnerable becuase to me that is the fastest way to get hurt. I have a habbit of keeping every last possible thing inside becuase I'm to afraid to talk to people about my emotions and all that other kind of stuff. You are right though I don't want to end up doing something not like me or losing it. I'm just afriad.
Thanks aigan,
Morgan
Everyone needs to vent. You can't keep all of what's going on inside of you. Do you have a close friend in which you can confide to? I used to be the same way and just let everything eat at me alive but I realized that there are people out there that are willing to listen and are willing to give you advice, you just have to find the right people.
With opening up to people you have to understand that you WILL be vulnerable, but it's all about trusting people. Would you rather keep all of it inside of you and eventually end up doing something not like you or losing it? Or would you rather take a chance of opening up to someone and letting them into your life? The worst thing that could happen is that they could either not listen or look down upon you and if that's the case then you don't need them in your life anyway.
I doubt that they would tell your counselor or parents unless it's something really serious or life threatening. Take a chance, open up to someone, and you might be surprised how much people really do care.