I've never been able to relate to others. It's not that I don't have any emotion, it's that I have too much emotion and see others as completely unfeeling and selfish. So I feel that I'll never be able to relate to others on any level because I can't turn it all off and be as cold, shallow, selfish and callous as everyone else. So in my mind, it's better to just stay away, make no friends, speak to no one, hold no attachments. Feeling so forced into isolation also brings a lot of frustration about what to do with my life. I got a computer degree 5 years ago but haven't been given a job because of discrimination. Finding that the world only cares about what you look like and what class you're born into makes me not want the stuffy corporate yuppie jobs anyway if that's how they're going to be. Unfortunately though I'm not physically able to work the slave labor McJobs so my only option would be a desk job. I just hate people so much from being rejected all of my life that I don't want to even bother trying to fit in and socialize with others. I don't know of anything that one could do to earn a living without having to see or speak to a single soul, so I'm just going to be homeless and that's that. And it all just leaves me very angry and very frustrated.
A place to come to ask and answer questions from others on mental health and relationship issues.
Copyright © 1992-2008 Psych Central. All rights reserved.
Answers
(((Iceberg)))
Part of our dealing with issues such as this comes from our understanding that not everyone is a pain in the butt or a stuck up snot...
I can understand not wanting to socialize, for sure--but you have to have a job, right? I mean, how else would you support yourself?
Is there a desk job (as you mentioned) that you could work with on computers? I mean, like at a help desk? Lookit, I know everyones not roses and all that crap, but in the same breath, there are a few out there who really do care and really do work hard to help others out.
To me, if you could find a job doing something like helpdesk, etc., you could be able to talk to people more and possibly be more sociable to others? This may help chip some of the ice off...
We're not all pains ;), and I think you believe that too, or you wouldnt reach out...
Keep talking...
Clyde
I definitely agree with Clyde on the job thing. But this also sounds like it's not just about the jobs- you've obviously not had good experiances with people and that's why you don't like them. Some people are actually the way you described- selfish, snotty, bitches- but most aren't. I used to think everyone was out to get me and no one understood- then I met some truly spectacular people and I knew that I had been wrong. Now, you probably will never be a social person, that's fine, but you have to be able to interact when necessary. I do think that Clyde's suggestions for jobs were good.
Best of luck and keep on trying,
Leanne
Yeah, believe it or not, and those that know me will not believe it either, I am not much of a social person. I get shy, anxious, nervous in crowds and groups--even those groups that LIKE ME!
Best of luck, Iceberg! Thanks Leanne!