I was doing some research on Borderline personality disorder and i noticed some of the symptoms.....
"Impulsively in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)"
and so i was wondering....me and her fight everyday....since "sex" is one of the possible symptoms... what r the chances of her being unfaithful?? do most people diagnosed with BPD cheat?? Im concerned about my health...what should i do?
"Impulsively in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)"
and so i was wondering....me and her fight everyday....since "sex" is one of the possible symptoms... what r the chances of her being unfaithful?? do most people diagnosed with BPD cheat?? Im concerned about my health...what should i do?
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It's possible she is misdiagnosed. So don't assume anything.
Borderline Personality Disorder are just personality traits. It's not a predictor of behavior. It cannot predict the future.
BPD is characterized by instability in relationships. It's confusing. She might do or say things that aren't congruent to her true feelings. Give her time to sort things out. Don't give her an option for cheating. Be there for her. People who cheat are looking for something missing in their relationships. If she ends up cheating, then you'll know it wasn't due to any but her desire to end your relationship.
(((Ghost)))
You have to separate the disorder from the person. Just because she may be BPD does not mean she is cheating on you. It is the same thing as saying that a person who is depressive is always, continuously sad...sometimes things are not always set in stone.
If you are worried about your health, too, get an AIDS test among all the other STD tests (if thats what you meant).
Has she really gave you any other identification of being "unfaithful" other than you reading that it may be something in BPD?
Impulsive in sex could also mean too, that she is having a ton of sex with you, not just sex with everyone.
Hope this helps, and hope there is nothing to worry about.
Best,
Clyde
ghost,
Let's deal with your actual concern first. Is she faithful?
Statistics show 30 percent of men and 15 percent of women reported that they had been involved in at least one extramarital affair. The rate of infidelity goes up with age in both sexes. So percentage wise in the normal population, you have good odds that she will not cheat if she is content in the relationship. However, you admit that you are in a very volatile relationship. Which gives you reason for concern.
A true borderline only behaves in risky behavior when they feel stressed and out of control. Otherwise, they can actually be very appealing and entertaining individuals. It is only when their coping skills cannot accommodate the stress level they are under that the disorder rears its ugly head. We all respond in a similar manner to stress the difference is that most of us are not as impulsive, labile and risky as the person with borderline personality.
First of all BPD is a tricky diagnosis that's pretty controversial. So just because some people have said she has it doesn't mean she really does.
Second base what you do off of how you know her personally not off of the diagnosis. I've been called borderline (Don't agree with it though) but I've never cheated and don't believe I ever would.
You can't really get much info from the diagnosis.
Just ignore it and react to her actions how you would otherwise.