Hi,
My name is Morgan and I'm a few months away from being 16. There a few things about me but heres my problem. I'm not sure how to please my parents. I have such a bad relationship with them to begin with and it seams like everyday it get worse. Just because I don't do everything they want or get amazing grades (straight A's) it always seams like I'm the bad guy. Every single person in my family implies that I'm stupid and that i don't care about anything other than my hair, make-up, shoes, purses/handbags, and clothes, well that may be true sometime its not all there is to me. I'm not some superficial Barbie. But why am i being treated that way? I'm not the type of person who cares a whole lot about school but that doesn't mean I'm stupid it means that I don't care. I mean I want to go into fashion I don't need all of those things. But how can I get my family to understand aka my parents to understand that? How can I get my family to stop implying that I'm stupid? I'm so tired of it I've heard it for so long and I can't keep hearing it my entire life. I've been told that what I want to do with my life won't happen but how do they know that how does anyone know that. If it doesn't work out fine but who are you ever going to know if you don't try?? I'm just so stressed out and I honest to god can't wait for college to be half way around the world. My family can't sit in a room together for five minutes without fighting unless the room stays silent and no one says not even one word to each other. I'm just so fed up with my life right now and not sure what to do. Any advice is welcome.
Thanks so much for taking time to read and hopefully respond.
Morgan
My name is Morgan and I'm a few months away from being 16. There a few things about me but heres my problem. I'm not sure how to please my parents. I have such a bad relationship with them to begin with and it seams like everyday it get worse. Just because I don't do everything they want or get amazing grades (straight A's) it always seams like I'm the bad guy. Every single person in my family implies that I'm stupid and that i don't care about anything other than my hair, make-up, shoes, purses/handbags, and clothes, well that may be true sometime its not all there is to me. I'm not some superficial Barbie. But why am i being treated that way? I'm not the type of person who cares a whole lot about school but that doesn't mean I'm stupid it means that I don't care. I mean I want to go into fashion I don't need all of those things. But how can I get my family to understand aka my parents to understand that? How can I get my family to stop implying that I'm stupid? I'm so tired of it I've heard it for so long and I can't keep hearing it my entire life. I've been told that what I want to do with my life won't happen but how do they know that how does anyone know that. If it doesn't work out fine but who are you ever going to know if you don't try?? I'm just so stressed out and I honest to god can't wait for college to be half way around the world. My family can't sit in a room together for five minutes without fighting unless the room stays silent and no one says not even one word to each other. I'm just so fed up with my life right now and not sure what to do. Any advice is welcome.
Thanks so much for taking time to read and hopefully respond.
Morgan
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Answers
I'm sorry to hear that you're fed up with your life right now, but at your age (happy birthday btw) you will soon have control of your own life. You don't sound ready to take it over though, imo.
How much have you researched as to what you will need for the fashion industry? My mother worked for a famous designer in NY (a long time ago) and she needed extensive math and language skills in addition to an uncanny knack for fashion. It's ok to be average in school, but if you can gain those higher grades, then you might be able to be awarded a scholarship to go to a fashion design school. Wouldn't that be a wonderful way to show your family that you can take care of yourself!
Good wishes
drjean
There were always a million things more important to me than school. Like boys, drugs, cutting school, and the latest gossip. I didnt really start applying myself till I got to my Junior year. I went to college, but dropped out. Now after being in the real world for 10 years, I realized I screwed up BIG time. I have had the same job for 8 years, with no possible chance for advancement and I cant get a job anywhere else that wuld start me off at what I'm making now. I'm basically stuck. My advice, is to buckle down a bit and try. I promise you it will pay off.
Teen age years are hard. You are trying to find out who you are, you want to experience things, all the while parents get frustrated with this. Maybe them calling you stupid/dumb is their way (not a good way) to try and motivate you, cos other things havent worked in the past.
Hi Morgan!
I can definitely understand your frustrations. You are very interested in having a fashion career, which is very awesome indeed.
You will need; however, to have as much schooling now as you can to be accepted into a college, either halfway around the world or next door to you. Trust me, I am a Ph.D. student, and know very well how aggravating school can be sometimes. It sometimes seems like even the best is not good enough.
But trust me, you really do need to buckle down for the next two years of school, so you can go to college and help start your fashion career. You can't start it without having the means necessary to do so.
That means includes school :)
Is there more with the family then just your issues? I mean, is there anything like divorce, etc., going on that doesn't necessarily include you, but worries you none the less (understandably so)?
We all have a huge amount of stress in our lives. And a lot of it is not fair!
But my friend, trust me, getting that education out of the way is no problem at all for you later on when you are able to afford things and do things you want. It will come, just relax and do well in school. Know we are looking out for you :)
Best,
Clyde