me and my boyfriend have been dating for about almost one year. Its hard to trust him cause he makes bad dicisions that i dont aprove of...The when I ask him what bad stuff he did he doesnt even tell me I have to beg it out of him, I feel like he hides so much from me that I just dont know wat to do. When I find out I mostly get upset and not talk to him for awhile...I hate feeling this way and cry alot but then again I dont want to lose him. I talk to him about this stuff all the time it is so freaking rediculous I feel as if he doesnt care how I feel and if I am like baby sitting him, He hates when I tell him what to do and what not to do. I tell him I have to cause he doesnt get it and he hates when I get mad at him. He doesnt make sense if he wants me not to be so peranoid and mad and sad all the time he would change his ways that is all I ask, and give OUR relasionship a little more effort. He makes me feel guilty and sad like it is my fault when he did something wrong and not me!
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i hate guys like that i being one myself cant see why a man who has a girl would do nothing to make sure she is happy and safe there is no way around it he may not want to change even for you which is rude on his part you have done NOTHING wrong u just asked him for what evry girl deserves a man who respects and loves her talking only goes so far if no one is listening i hope you can work this out in the end
Hi Haylee,
He seems like he is not putting forth the effort in the relationship whatsoever.
He has to know (in no uncertain terms) if you have not told him yet that he definitely has to work at this relationship with you.
It does sound exactly, as you said, that you are "babysitting him" and the relationship. Could you discuss this with him in a face to face situation, or would he tune it all out?
Best,
Clyde