Basically, I found a chat conversation my husband had with a classmate of his whom he met last semester. She was bummed because a guy she liked dumped her saying she was dressing too provocatively. So my husband says to her that she has a provocative body, though it's not her fault. and that many men see her and get excited and want to have a sexual relationship with her assuming that she is ready to give it up. He goes on to say that she is a good girl with a good heart, delicate with a good sense of humor and that she deserves a guy that would respect her. That's basically it. Some background: When I first introduced myself to her, she didn't know that my husband was married. One time, in phone convo that he had infront of me she mentioned it was her birthday but she was stuck at school with no ride and he said he would take her to get some ice cream, but when I told him "cool, let's go" he cancelled the plan saying it would be awkward if I went since I didn't know her that well. Also, he had a text message from her where she was gripping about a guy not visiting her and my husband said that he(the boyfriend) was dumb, because if it was him he would be there.
So I have talked to him about this and he says that i'm overreacting. I want to know: Am I overreacting or is some boundary being crossed?
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