Avatar Posted by chynnaelizabeth 28 days ago (Question)
I am a Sophomore at a community college, and I have failed my second semester of my first year. I moved out of the dorms, dropped down to 9 credit hours, and gained over 20 pounds. my very first semester at college I became very depressed only finding satisfaction with food, and slept all of the time, even up to 16 hours a day and I was STILL TIRED!! Now I feel like that I may fail again this semester, however, I have a scholarship that is all based on my performance this semester. I have been completely confused on what I want to do in college. I have tried really hard this summer taking two classes and passing them with an A and a B. One of those classes was a career exploration class. That class seemed to do nothing but confuse me more and all it felt like was that the school just wanted to put me in a demand field instead of really trying to help me find what I want. I wanted to take a break, but my grandparents, who I was raised by, wouldn't stand for it, and I'm terrified of never going back and being left behind by all of my friends. I have always had self-esteem issues but when I entered college it hit to a whole new level. I got a boyfriend and I can't do anything without him. I feel completely abandoned when he hangs out with his friends. I haven't told anyone about this. However, I have blown up at my boyfriend for stupid reasons to try to cover up my feelings and get him to stay with me and I feel soo guilty when I do it but I can't help it! I felt angry when my friends, including my boyfriend, all got parts in the school play and I didn't. Even when it was my fault for failing acting class for not showing up halfway through the second semester of last year which lead to me not getting a part this year. I don't even really like singing, but I am terribly gelous of my boyfriends best friend for getting into the singing group. I never told anyone about this. I have had problems all year with Kris, my boyfriend's best friend. He has been complaining about stupid things about me all year like saying that I was following sam, my boyfriend, around on the set of the play when actually I was painting the set when sam came up to me and started helping me paint. Finally, I have been sick of being left out of stuff by sam's friends and want to start over with new friends and a new college career. Well, anyway how do I figure out what I want and need, is there something wrong with me and how do I fix it?



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Written by Chemar 28 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

so sorry to hear what you are going through

have you been to see your doctor? that may be the best place to start so that you can have a physical and bloodwork to see if anything is out of balance in your system

Next step would be to maybe ask your doctor for a referral to a psychologist so that you can discuss the depressed and anxious feelings you are having with a professional.

Are you eating healthily and taking vitamins & mineral supplements? So often nutritional deficiencies can add to depression and anxiety to take them out of the "normal" range that all of us experience from time to time. Have you ever had your vitamin B12 levels checked?

College can be mega stressful and it sounds like you really do need some time off to maybe regroup, although that may impact your scholarship. Do you have a counselor there that you can discuss this with?

It is good to persevere, but pushing yourself beyond your limits is just not worth it.

I do hope you will try to see a doctor asap and that things will begin to settle down for you

We are here too if you need to talk more

Written by JunieBeatrice 28 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hello. Your situation sure sounds stressful. It sounds like you are having some anxiety. There are some things that help anxiety like excercise, diet, yoga or meditation and even medications. Now I am not a doctor it just sounds like you might be having anxiety. There is a lot of pressure on you to succeed. Try talking to an academic counsellor at the college (they are there to help you set goals and meet them academically) and also see if your college has any peer counselling or counselling with a therapist (some colleges do) it might help the anxiety. In the meantime, take some deep breaths, try to be good to yourself and understand that college is just downright stressful for a lot of people. All my best, Junie

Written by Fpsy 28 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi Chyna,

I think that you could benefit from seeing a psychologist. You sound depressed, but there are some more issues going on with you as well. All that sleeping is one of the symptoms of depression. The psychologist can help develop some skills in you, so that you can begin to think differently about yourself and your situations. They can also help you to loose some weight, and get things back on track for you, so that you begin to enjoy not only who you are, but life.

Like the others have suggested seek out any counselors that you can access at college. They usually have a lot of resources for students. If your suffering from depression, they can write a letter of support, so that you can get extra time to do assignments and stuff. If there isn't a college counselor, the psychologist can also provide this for you. You can get support to help you through college, and deal with your depression and other stuff. Don't leave it any longer, the longer you leave it, the worse stuff builds up. Go before the next semester starts, and get a head start on getting the supports in place.

If not you can get an appointment with the doctor and get a referral to see a psychologist. Most community health centers have a free counseling service.

Here is a website about depression with symptoms, treatment, and self help stuff.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_signs_types_diagnosis_treatment.htm

I hope this helps

Written by Clyde 26 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi there.

As the other people have mentioned, college is indeed stressful. Lots of times, people do not always know what they are going to be/want to be.

While of course, it does help to have an idea of what you wanna do, it is not always done.

Can you talk to a career counselor at school? I am sure they probably have them there. They had them at our local community college, so they should at yours.

The rest also sounds like depression, and hopefully, either by seeing a doctor/therapist or both, and by talking to the career counselors, you can get back on track.

Best,

Clyde


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