Im having an affair with my EX boyfriend again, his having one child to a woman who's very disagree to his family. His family planned that he will sent him to abroad just for them to be away with that woman, indeed it happen, im with him in the same country wherein Im working. I managed to be calm and at eased because I knew already that there family is voted for me since I was with him 8 years ago.

I love him so much for the second time around but taking the next serious relationship with him is at stake. Im so confuse now to invest my feelings wherein his having a child with that woman. He said that he loved me for than that woman but only he cares the baby. That woman having a child of 3 different father and plus 4 for him. Am going to pursue and invest my feeling with this man?


Answers


enilecarg
732 days ago
If you really love him then, you would accept him and his child. I think he needs you right now to be there and help him get up.

If he would admit that he made a huge mistake being involved in that woman, you both can start fixing things up again. By the way, does your boyfriend still contact her? He should make up his mind and know your worth.



Snowy
728 days ago
Thank you for the great answer, appreciate it. My boyfriend still have a contact with her because of the baby. He told me that, im very open to him. Im here in dubai, im working here and his having visit visa and currently looking for a job.



bella
732 days ago
Hi - can you clarify this quote:

"His family planned that he will sent him to abroad just for them to be away with that woman, indeed it happen, im with him in the same country wherein Im working."

Did your BF take his child abroad as well? I hope not. Is he planning to financially support his child and be there emotionally? Would be sad to think this child may never have his father in his life. Was he married to this woman? What was the reason you both broke up before.

My advice is - try not to make this decision emotionally. So often exes are made to villain, to make it look like the other one is a victim. If he is away from his child, this is an indication of what kind of man your BF is. For instance - what if you end up having kids with him and he decides problems are too much.....will he run off and leave you /the kids?" Be smart, take your time and encourage him to be a part of his childs life.



Snowy
728 days ago
His relative are working here in Dubai, they saved a money for him just be away from that woman, no his not married to that woman. That woman having 3child with different father and fouth child was my boyfriend.i understand what his situation is, because he tells me everything about that woman and a child. That woman using the child to captivate his attention. but now his having a visit visa and currently looking for a job here in dubai.