Avatar Posted by kravalisa 36 days ago (Question)
This is strange, or is it? Can you relate?
I have been masterbating about men that I find unattractive in real life for several years now on a nightly basis.
I mean they are real men I know which makes it more hot/creepy and I find myself letting them do all sorts of pornographic things to me and me sometimes on them. In real life I know that they have an undying crush on me thats lasted many years, but there are things about them I find repulsive. In real life I would never want this to happen and as soon as Im done with my orgasm-I have no desire. There is bad hygeine, poverty, illiterateness, obesity, aging sagging skin...........honestly all that is neighter here nor there, it is just the fact that to them I am as lucious as a strawberry cupcake with sprinkles on top. I am the equiviliant to a playboy model to an average guy, and so thats what I think the extreme horniness is all about. Im not bad looking, Im pretty average, but I do feel pathetic inside sometimes and perhaps in my fantasies I am making having sexual odiations with their pathetic outsides. Ill say this and shut up- I have heard that sometime people may choose the way people look on the outside to match how they feel on the outside, not sure how true this is.......but anyway- so the question is does anyone else only masterbate about their un-ideal?


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Written by bellacutie 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I really don't know why you only fantasize about unattractive men. Everyone has their own idea of what stimulates them I guess. What do your boyfriends look like? There are many unattractive people in the world who have partners, so I don't think you're the only one. There's even websites targeted to overweight people only. If you're happy and your life is going well otherwise - then don't worry.

Written by Chemar 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

sorry but I do think you have a problem in your perception of others in that you refer to these men as having "pathetic outsides" "repulsive"...

and you rank "poverty" in there with your unattractive list??

then you describe yourself as "to them I am as lucious as a strawberry cupcake with sprinkles on top. I am the equiviliant to a playboy model to an average guy".....

seems to me you have an odd set of values when it comes to how you view others and yourself.

sorry but that is my honest personal answer as I find it rather offensive that you refer to "unattractive" people in that derogatory way.

Written by bellacutie 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think you're right Chemar - now that I read it again. I agree it does seem there's too much judgement and misdirected values from this poster. What good character/personality qualities do you offer to a partner?

Written by Clyde 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

And it could also be OCD tendencies as well--the OCD traits do involve some odd sexual thoughts/behaviors.

Best,

Clyde

Written by bellacutie 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I've been thinking about your post more. You say you're average looking but to someone unattractive you're the equivalent of a playboy bunny - is this in your fantasy or do you really think an unattractive man would think your average looks are playboy material because you see them as desperate. Unattractive people have high expectations too you know.

How are things is real life for you? How's your self esteem? Do you wish you looked more desirable where a man would be desperate for your attention? Most people rely on masturbation to supplement their otherwise healthy sex life. Are you able to be fulfilled by a partner?

Written by smack 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Maybe it's because their unattractiveness makes it more realistic for you. The sagging skin, poor hygiene, obesity - all of it amounts to a real person, not a muscular, hairless, airbrushed model. You can better imagine what a real person might smell and feel like, rather than just what they look like.

I would interpret this not as strange, but as encouraging. If you can accept and be aroused by the realities of sex, you may begin to overcome your own insecurities.

Written by AppleJuiceGirl 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think you have these fantasies because they're very flattering. Sometimes it's nice to be flattered and feel like people look at you with awe. That's probably what is most arousing to you, feeling like someone is just enthralled with you. I kinda have the same thing sometimes. Not sexually, but when I daydream I daydream about men looking at me like I'm the hottest thing that's ever walked on the planet and being jealous of my boyfriend or telling him how lucky he is. And I'm not the hottest thing that's ever walked on the planet, let alone my street (which is saying something). Lol. Hope that makes you feel more normal, it really didn't sound like you had a problem, more like you were just curious.

Written by Ihaveagun419 17 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Wow, very weird.

I actually registered an account with this website because of You.

Ive had a similar issue, not necessarily recently, but continually since I've reached sexual maturity.

Not so much that I plan on following through with my thoughts.

but the thoughts themselves cannot be described as nothing other than a "Turn on"

I would consider myself, a great guy with great friends and a great girlfriend.

but honestly sometimes people that I am unattracted to tend to be a sexual fantasy.

I would not judge these people far enough to say that they are bad people.

But they are very different from what i am interested in and what I look for in a girl.


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