Ex is not only copying my style but currently pretty much a lot more. From what I understand, she also was very jealous of my husband and try to do what he does for the kids which she sees that they enjoy or care about.
He says she is not happy that we are together based on some of her actions. She asks alot of questions about personal details about me from the kids and my Husband !
Asked about I wanting children acted as though she was worried that if I did not soon. All with my husband and then spoke to the kids to the boy where were crying at dinenr during a vacation that I should not have kids of my own as they have gone through too much. It was such a nightmare. My husband in turn does not want kids now and claims there is only a slight chance and now it is over. I will not have married him if he did not wanted kids. It was a dream and the one thing I asked for in the relationship. HE asks me question like "is this what you married me for ?" I am devastated.
She tried to get the kids to hate me when she went through a divorce and instigated that she is marrying my husband which means I am in the way.
THe oldest had problems with her. He cared and loved me more. She was oh never happy about it. Now, he is not close me to anymore because she has said some bad things about me and he does not ask me becos, he cannot talk to me or email me when the kids are there but she will call anytime when kids are with us and interrupt our meals or demand why he did not pick up her calls when he is talking to me. ANd he worries about mentioning it is me in my custody time and says someone in front of me.
I am not unreasonable I can understand that some of it is difficult but she was also a step-mom and did stuff too.
BEcos the other mom was not unreasonable about it. She has one rule for herself and one rule for others.
There are a lot of things I cannot do for the kids. But if she can't she just dumps things on us and except us to pick up her slack.
She wants my help but without any credit or love by the kids towards me.
It did not bother her not having her kids on Mothers day becos, she wanted to make sure that my husband has a hard time having the boys on Fathers day. She tried to make it her current husband's day. But once she got the divorce, she legally had it that she will always have them on mothers day.
She is also a chronic lier. And will say anything and everything to convice people which people do fall for including my husband.
Because, I spend very little time thinking or worrying about her except when I know she is trying to mess up something. Like trying to get away for a night with her boyfriend and dumping the kids on us when we already had plans for valentine knowing we do not have the kids. And lying first that she is going to the emergency room as she was not well.
She is lazy and insist on getting drivers license for my older boy and got him to start driving one week after his 16 b'day. Brinfing his younger brother early morning during traffic
ANd tried many many times to get my older boy to ask me to let him drive his younger brother to school which is a mile away becos it looked bad on her.
I refused as we did not want him driving since we drive them anyway. ANd definitely not having to take responsibility for his younger brother. I told him many times that I am happy to drive both of them to school. And if he insists on driving himself I am still responsible for his younger brother. I just did not want him to worry when he has a lot of stuff going on for him with having to deal with school, sat, college etc.
I moved over from overseas so my way of life is different perhaps from most people in America.
I use to put up interesting articles and positive wordings for the kidss to read. I was afraid as they were braty and negative in their upbringing. Ex went and told everyone that she is all about putting up postitive signs. I was taken aback since she never did but I let it go as it is a good thing.
She copies whatever I cook so the kids get tired and I have to think about something new. I had a very hard time feeding the kids. I work full time and try to make meals that are healthy. I have 2 very picky and fussy eaters. It drove me nuts.
I have a medical condition low sugar and low blood pressure. THe kids have seen me having some trouble in the mornings. My hands shake terribly if did not drink or eat something sustaining first thing in the morning. So I told them about it. ALso, during the trips, I have to eat or drink before we can start a day. So, they always bring it up. The kids use to feel bad about it. I think they told her.
She had high blood pressure for about 5 years Now the last couple of months she is claiming she has low sugar is going to the extreme of it all. Blood testing, getting a glucaone. So, it seems like she is trying to get the attention and kids keep saying that she has what I have.
I am not sure, whatever she says my husband and kids believe. I can understand about the kids. But husband, I don't get it.
She had boy cut hair all her life and parts from the left and starting having shoulder lenth hair like me and parts on the right now like me.
I have a distingtive quiet voice and speak in a certain way and she had the opposite and now started talking like me. She is not able to have my slight british accent. Today, she called 2 or 3 times ( i can see her number) and listened to my voice recording and then quietly hanged up. She had no idea that I was looking. Both my kids were home so it cannot be them.
This all might look random but it does not with the series of event.
She started dressing like me. Unlike her, I do not wear shorts or tights like she use to. I tend to wear dresses, jeans and wide leg pants.
I hand gesture a lot and tilt my head in pictures which is kind of natural for me as with my mom. SHe has started to do that. It is really freaky seeing her do something as though she is keepin up with me to the point where husband and kids are keep comparing that she has or looks and it is very disturbing.
IT has past the point of feeling flattered which I don't feel comfortable that someone is watching me this closely and observing my move. I have never been one to draw attention to myself. Unlike her she will let everyone know about things and seek for attention.
I feel that she is trying to shadow me and wants to be discussed in our household. We do keep her at bay. But she always wants to know what my husband and I are up to and how our relationship is going. She also asks the kids a lot of questions.
Last night was the last straw. Her way of making people think something is to over do everything to the point that people have to believe what she says.
I feel invaded in someways with how my family and I are without she constantly trying to share whatever little attention I get.
I am glad I finally wrote about it. I do feel really bad about it even though I do not let her see it at all.