Why does my ex husband's wife take every opportunity she can to try to make me look bad? One recent example: Minutes before my daughter's wedding ceremony, she tried to change the seating arrangement at the ceremony. The coordinator politely tried to resolve the ordeal, but that wasn't good enough. The 'wife' then comes to where the bridal party is lined up and procedes to create a scene with me, as to why she was changing the seats for the ceremony and why she and my ex needed to sit where my husband and I were sitting (in the first 2 seats/front row/brides side. I happened to be sitting when she got in my face. I tried to avoid confrontation by quietly stating that the coordinator's had taken care of the seating and everything was okay. I repeated that at least 2 times. But, she insisted on letting me know that 'they' had googled the seating arrangements the night before and the father was supposed to sit in the first seat and her next to him. Then she suggested that I sit next to my ex and she sit behind us in the second row, with my husband. I very assertively told her NO, we weren't changing anything, that my husband would be sitting next to me. Finally, (I'm still sitting) I told her that if they'd (she and my ex) paid attention at the rehearsal she would've known where they were to sit. She kept on, getting more upset and I repeated, that I was sorry they had not paid attention during rehearsal. She blew up on me, yelling...telling me that I put her down, like I ALWAYS do. (What?) She did this IN FRONT OF THE 1 of the coordinators, the bridesmaids, MY EX AND MY DAUGHTER/BRIDE. Finally, she was asked to leave us and take her seat. ***This isn't the first time that she has gone off on me, unprovoked and very irrational thinking... I want to know why she does this & why she tries to make ME look bad??
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