Hi. I am almost 50 and my husband and I are losing our home. We raised our children here...and I feel very down and sad. I know that circumstances are beyond our control and we can chalk this situation up to a bad economy and health issues. (My husband had to have open heart surgery last year). The mortgage company refuses to modify because we submitted modification/hardship papers two times.
What can I do to get out of the funk I am in? I was crying today as I packed up my pots and pans. We are moving into a rental that is 1/2 the size of our home so it will be difficult. I have to pull out my 15 1/2 year old from his high school to another district.
Don't get me wrong...I can see the glass as half full. I have my husband alive and well and I am grateful for that. I am just having a bad day. It seems like everything is crashing down around me. My husband was recently diagnosed with bipolar II so I have to deal with that on top of his heart disease. I recently took off the semester at grad school because I can't pack up a house, move and do both. Any advice would be much appreciated.


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bella
1562 days ago
Hi sugarplumfairy,

this is a devastating loss you and your family are going through and you're not alone unfortunately. This economy has been horrible for many people. I'm sorry your husband has these difficult health problems. To move from the house you've raised your children in, at a time when you should be able to slow down, would make anyone sad.

It's good that you can still see the glass as half full. The best advice I can offer is to keep focusing on the positive and make sure you tend to your needs. Women often put themselves on the back burner and take care of everyone else instead.

We also went through a financial crisis...luckily we still have our house but we're still living month to month. Make sure you cut back on monthly spending. I save alot shopping for groceries at lower end stores and have cut out all the luxuries. Getting some financial counseling would be a great idea.

It's natural for you to feel extra sad during the move itself - with all the memories flooding through your mind. Just remember there may be many memories in that house but they'll always be in your heart. I pray circumstances will improve for your family.



Chemar
1562 days ago
Hi sugarplumfairy

my deepest sympathy. We suffered much loss when my husband took seriously ill 6 years ago and so I understand how you are feeling.

I hope you are getting emotional support from family and friends as well.

all you can do is take it one day, one step at a time. at this time, dont even try to see the bigger picture as it will just seem to overwhelming.

you will be ok. life will be different, yes. but you will be ok.

I hope and pray your husband's health will improve and that he will get effective treatment for the bipolar too.

stay in touch with us. you need to have support while you go through this transition.

God Bless