My son has had problems all his life. tried getting help, but all they did was put him on medicationwithout a proper diagnosis. They said add, then adhd, thn manic depressive, anxiety, bi polar.
I believe he has aspergers syndrome after doing alot of research. My son is now 23 years old and in denial that there is anything wrong. His symptoms are,lying, stealing, comfortable around only those he is familiar with, can't hold a job, blames others for anything and everything that happens to him, he is homeless, depends on his parents to feed and take care of him, misuses medications. mismanages his money, can't look people in the eye when speaking. to name a few.
I would like to know how I could get him help. he will not get help on his own and I feel he will either end up in jail, or dead, if I do not intervene in some way. Is there anything I can do? Where do I turn?
Karen Peterson


Answers


bella
1431 days ago
Hi Karen - would your son be cooperative if you ask his doctor to do some testing on him? If he won't cooperate, there isn't very much you can do unless he poses a danger to himself or others. Do you think he's become worse than before?

Not being able to feed himself is a concern. Does he have a job or does he collect disability? Here a link to info. here at PC and you can also click 'Resource' to find books, articles and websites. I understand it must be very distressing to see your child go through this.

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2010/aspergers-disorder-2/



Karen432
1431 days ago
Thank you for your quick response. he has seen multiple doctors , right now he is in the process of gettinga new GP in Hyannis Mass. he can feed himself, h just counts on us to cook and give him his meals, he said that his boss just told him he may return to work. he has lost every job he has had since he was 16 due to falls and not showing up to work. He has never collected disability, although he has applied for seveal welfare benefits over the years.

I am terribly distressed! I am so afraid something bad is going to happen. I can tell you , he will not listen to me on his matter. He feels nothing is wrong with him.

THank you so much for trying to help. I don't have any resourses to turn to here in Massachusetts, and even if I did, my son is in total denial and will not seek help. I am afraid for him, not for me. If you thinkof anything I might be able to do, please let me know. Sincerely, Karen Peterson



Chemar
1431 days ago
Hi Karen

so sorry to hear of yet another person misdiagnosed and offered only medication to help, often making things worse when it is a wrong diagnosis and so a wrong med!

Your son really owes it to himself to get correctly diagnosed and treated. He may well be eligible for disability, although there are also programs now providing job opportunities for people in the Autism spectrum, which Aspergers is. There are also groups homes.

Even though your son is an adult, it does not seem he is capable of properly caring for himself untreated.

here is a website that may be helpful to you

http://www.autism-help.org/adults-autism-aspergers.htm



Karen432
1431 days ago
Thank you and I couldn't agree more. I think something like a group home with people with imilar issues would be perfect for him, I have saved this web site and all ou conversations, I want to dicuss this with him at great length and show him that there is help out there for his situation.

I can only pray he listens and will take advice of seeking further help for this disorder so that he can lead a more productive life.

Thanks you so much for all your help, I will keep you informed. Sincerely , Karen



Karen432
1431 days ago
Thank you and I couldn't agree more. I think something like a group home with people with imilar issues would be perfect for him, I have saved this web site and all ou conversations, I want to dicuss this with him at great length and show him that there is help out there for his situation.

I can only pray he listens and will take advice of seeking further help for this disorder so that he can lead a more productive life.

Thanks you so much for all your help, I will keep you informed. Sincerely , Karen



Karen432
1431 days ago
I can not tell you how helpful you have been. I hve bookmarked all the links you have given me. This has been a real eye opener for me. The more I read, the more I am convinced that Asperger's is definitely what my son is trying to cope with . Again, Thank you so much. Karen



bella
1431 days ago
You're very welcome Karen and we're happy to help. I hope your son gets the proper help.



Karen432
1430 days ago
I talked to my son today , he has agreed to talk to his physician with me going along ! he sat here most of the morning and read all of the information you had given me last evening . He sees the similarities and decided he would seek help. Again, I can't thank you enough, and as things get rolling, I will keep you informed as to how everything is going. I pray he gets the help he needs. Thank you so much for all your help. Karen