Avatar Posted by dusting00 355 days ago (Question)
i dated this girl for a year now and she told me two months in our relationship that she suffers from bulimia and wont be around much longer. she has made it for a long time right now and she said she still sufferes from bulimia. i want to help her but she refuses to let me help her. she just broke up with me and said that she needs to deal with her problems alone but im afraid that something could happen to her if shes alone. i love her alot and want her to know how much i care about her and how much i want to help her. what do i say to her. how can i tell her im the one for her to help?


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Written by Edahn 355 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I don't think you can force your help on people, in general. The most you can do is make yourself available for them. You can send her a heartfelt email, saying that you care, and that you want to support her in her recovery. How do you imagine you could help her? If you have some practical ways, you can tell her. Practical ideas (checking in once a week, going out to dinner, going to work out together) might seem more appealing to her than a general request for her to confide in you, given your history together. You can also provide her with some information that she could use, like articles, books, references to groups, references to counselors, and crisis helplines.

Written by Clyde 348 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I agree with Edahn...you may have to do some common sense, friendship, practical things at the moment to help her.

Unless you can show her that it is crippling her life, she is not going to want to change.

Best,

Clyde

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