I have been married for nearly 11yrs. I yell at and hit my kids and wonder if this is due to a lack of emotional support in my marriage. My husband and I also argue although I have learnt to avoid confrontations. My husband doesn't drink or do drugs. He is a workaholic coming home late most nights. He is sexually faithful. He doesn't have un work related friends. We have two boys 5 & 7yrs and I find they don't listen or respect me. I don't see myself as a good mother as I am emotionally absent and feel clostrophobic by their presence. I yell and hit to get control and have damamged our relationship. I have had help from social services who no longer want to be involved. I think it's because my case is not as important as others or they can't really help me. I don't know where to go for help. I got a phsychology chart done for my husband and I and it says that I have high emotional needs and am sensitive to not getting these met. That I can use the relationship to overcome the sensitivity by learning to be more emotionally independant. Can I do this alone. If so how? I believe that when I am feeling ok my relationship with my kids is OK although there is some serious damage now and I rarely feel ok. I wonder if this is related to feeling lonely in my marriage. I have spoken with domestic voilence people and they too don't want to get involved as it seems we are not considered a high risk family. I appreciate any feedback you have. Lisa
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