Avatar Posted by musandpiggy 254 days ago (Question)
my husband isn't my daughters real father but he has been in her life since before she was 2 and she just turned 10. They get along beter then i ever thought they would she has always spent alot of time and she calls him dad the piont i'm trying to make is there doesn't have to be blood for them to be family and have a father figure in there life.


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Written by Edahn 254 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Does he know that he's not the biological father? I'm curious.

Written by bellacutie 254 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

I agree that their doesn't have to be a blood relation for him to be a good parent. Even some biological parents aren't good parents. But I do think it's important for your child to understand that he isn't in fact the biological dad but in every other way he is like a real dad to them.

Edahn asked a good question. Does your husband know he's not the father? Does their real father know about his children? I would like to tell you a true story. A friend of our's had a girlfriend who had a baby girl. He found out when she was 5 that she wasn't his child. She knew all along whose child it was. Their relationship ended but he was already attached and considered himself her Dad. She took him to court and they told him if he wanted to continue seeing the child he would have to pay child support. He felt pressured so he signed the papers.

The child is 14 now. The man since that time married and had 2 kids of his own. Last year he won a million dollars and that ex-girlfriend is now sueing him for more money. By the way she was also collecting support from the real father. Pretty complicated isn't it.

I know this isn't relative to your situation, but I thought you would find it interesting. It's great for anyone to take on the parent role just as long as all parties are told the truth. Best of luck.

Written by Clyde 248 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Well, yeah, thats very true.

Good luck, and continued success.

Best,

Clyde


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