So my best friend and me met in 7th grade. We were exactly the same, and were extremely similar. We both liked the same kind of music, played the same sports, wore the same clothes:basketball shorts, ankle socks, and sweatshirts with Chuck Norris and other stuff. We both weren't popular, but also were not outcasts, and girls did not really have any attraction to either of us. Anyway, me and him were the funny kids, but it was mainly me. I would always show him funny videos and we would have tons of inside jokes. He would share these jokes with other people, which got me slightly annoyed, but not really. Eventually, he won funniest boy, and when he would share our inside jokes, he would say "It's my duty as funniest boy" which also ticked me off a bit, but not that much. We then played football together, and he caught a pass on defense and intercepted the pass, which made him a little more popular. Then lacrosse season came up (I live on LI so its a very popular sport up here) and he made the team, while I didn't. This was really the key factor to making him popular. He then made up a song about a kid making fun of him, which everyone thought was funny, and then the very popular kids started liking him.
Now we're in 8th grade, and he has changed everything. He listens to rap instead of alternative, which is what we used to listen to, he wears midcalves(long socks), khakis, corduroys, and all these preppy clothes which are what the popular kids wear. He goes to all these parties now, and I always see videos or posts on facebook from kids who didn't even know he existed in 7th grade. I always tell him that hes changed, but he doesnt listen. We had an argument recently, and I told him that I hated his new personality and everything, then he told me that I was the greatest person he had ever met and that he tries to ease down on his new look and everything, and that all he really cared about in my school were me and my other friend. I try to remember this whenever I see him with the popular kids and ignore it, but I can't. What should I do? I've been hanging out with my other friend a lot and I'm waiting for him to change again, but it doesnt seem like its gonna happen any time soon. He also hangs out with my other popular friend a lot, and doesn't invite me. Please help. I don't want any tips like "try to wait" or "talk to him about what hes doing" because I've already tried those.
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