Avatar Posted by holyface 36 days ago (Question)
I don't know when this developed, but I will get extremely angry and distant with people that invade my personal space or even belongings. I could be on the computer or watching tv or anything else, even washing dishes, and if someone is hovering over me or next to me i get really irritated, angry and start to get really quiet and distant. What is this called? Is it a mental, or psychological disorder? Is it common? Also i am korean and koreans are known to be very invasive, and nosy. Which is accepted behavior in korean society.


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Written by bellacutie 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

No I don't think it's a mental disorder. It would only be consider worrysome if you couldn't stand to be close to even a romantic partner. Instead of getting irritated and angry just tell them politely how you feel - for example "could you please back up" or "do you mind respecting my belongings, by not touching them". Slow deep breathing exercises are good for calming the nerves. Best of luck, Bella

Written by smack 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

With all things, "normal" is relative and broad. Some people, even entire cultures, are more or less comfortable with physical proximity.

How angry do you get? "Irritated" seems normal. "Enraged" does not.

Do you react negatively every single time anyone is in your personal space? Are there times you can tolerate it? A doctor's exam, for instance? Or a hug upon greeting a friend?

Written by holyface 36 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

ok, maybe i downplayed it a little. I get enraged and start to ask myself, why isnt he/she going away. I virtually never hug anyone, I don't even have to dislike the person to feel that way. I feel that way even with romantic partners once we get past the beginning stage. If possible I never even initiate the "closeness", well as far as personal space goes.

Written by Clyde 35 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Well, the old rule of thumb applies here too.

If it is bothering to you or others close to you, you probably should seek a therapists help or opinion about it.

If not, I wouldnt worry about it at all.

The first time you posted, I thought more of the latter, but I am not so sure as when I read the second one.

Best,

Clyde


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