problem with my partners Ex girlfriend

Posted by homeworker22 127 days ago (Question)

I have been with my b/f nearly 4 years, and his ex keeps calling him, or sending him texts every now and again. and one of the txts that she sent him was sort of inapropriate, as she knows he is with me, when i sent her a txt, asking what she was up to, and why she was sending txts like that to him, she replyed to me with a nasty txt, saying that my partner and i will not last, that thier friendship will last long well after me and my boyfriend are finnished. she said the only reason she stayed quite was because of my boyfriend, and that my boyfriend need to me to be trufull to himself and me. and i have no clue what she ment by any of that. and it realy hurt, and now i get really paranoid when she calls him, when i'm not there. and i want my partner to stop talking to her, but i dont know how to do it. as he keeps defending her all the time. it feels like she wants to split us up, even though aparently she has a boyfriend of her own. I've never met her. and i end up getting quite jealous about it, and i know jealousy is a killer in a relationship.

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Written by zanzivar 126 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I wouldn't blame you for getting upset. You are after all dating your boyfriend for 4 years and she's still texting him away?? That would drive me mad.

It would also make me very curious and I would go after her to see what she looks like. I couldn't stand not knowing that part and then I would go up to her and ask her face to face why she is doing what she does and to keep her bloody hands off your boyfriend once and for all! You have to protect what you have so I'd throw in a few threats as well. Why not, huh? You don't have to act on them but there is no way would I be complacent. Fuck that shit!

Zanzivar

Written by homeworker22 120 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi everyone,thanks for your comments, I have spoke with him about it all, but he just gets defensive all the time about it. I'm worried in case i make a rash decision, thats why i just dont know what to believe anymore. hopefully i will get my chance to have it out with this ex of his. my partner just needs to see through this ex of his.

Written by homeworker22 120 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Written by bellacutie 126 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi,

usually I encourage ex's to be friends and girlfriends to accept that their boyfriends remain friends(with the ex), but this isn't working in your case. I think you need to talk to your BF and tell him what she's said to you. Find out if he's talking to her about you and your problems in a bad way - if he is, then he needs to stop. If she's really your BF's friend then she needs to be supportive of you both as a couple. Talk to your BF and tell him exactly what she said to find out where your relationship stands. If that doesn't work, then tell her to mind her own business and worry about her own BF. Best of luck.

Written by Edahn 126 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Yep, agreed. Your boyfriend should not be that close to this person where they're texting all the time and she's interfering. Fuck that shit! LOL

I also agree with bella. Tell him exactly what happened. He needs to feel like you're his number one priority, not this hussy. If he's still defending her and unwilling to make a SIGNIFICANT ADJUSTMENT to their relationship -- e.g., they only talk by email and only every few weeks -- then personally, I'd leave him. That's not the kind of attention and respect you deserve from a person in that role. Hopefully though he'll see what's going on and make some type of change.

You're entitled to be treated like your man's #1 girl. Don't compromise that.

Written by Clyde 122 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I think it is very important for you to talk to your BF and see what is going on. Tell him what happened and how you feel, and how you worry about how things are going.

You deserve for him to pay full attention and respect to you, not partial.

Best,

Clyde

Written by homeworker22 120 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -