Avatar Posted by KeyceBoo 32 days ago (Question)
Ohk to start off, im 15, sophomore, and an only child. My mother has problems leaving at night and doing drugs leaving me at the house, she has done this since i was born(no lie). Because of her doing that and I am a only child my grandmother took me and so I live with her. Lately my mom has been doing way better; she has a job, apartment, and sort of a car(borrowing her sisters car). She has not done drugs in about 7 months. Since my mom is doing better my mom and my grandmother pressure me on who to live with. I told them I dont want to "live" with none of them. But have this plan where I stay at my moms during the week(because she lives RIGHT across the street from my school)and stay at my grandmas during holidays and weekends(my grandma is 15 mins from my school). I love my grandmother because she has always been there for me and always there to pick me up when my mom left me alone in the house and my grandma lived 2 hours away. But i love my mom too. Even though we have arguments I love her. and you know you cant take a child away from their mother. and my grandma is NOT trying to do that. But she just wants the best for me..So I'm stuck on who to live with because if I live with me mom; I have the house at night(because she works graveshift), she is across the street from my school, and its my mother OR i live with my grandma who is 15 mins away, who I somewhat don't get along with, and Im kind of spoiled(she always gives me money). The bad things about living with my mom is there is a chance she will leave and do drugs, sometimes she just yells at me for the stupidest things, and she shops, spending her money which she needs to pay for rent and then she goes and begs people for money(which is embarrassing because she is a grown woman asking her mom and sister to borrow from them; everyone in my family knows better to lend my mother money; she has stole lots of things in the past). The bad things about living with my grandma is she snaps at you(as in yelling) and she is constantly drinking. And I don't like it when she drinks because she is staggering,almost tripping over everything, and when she takes me to school she is swerving everywhere. So I'm stuck on who to live with. Can someone please help me????


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Written by Clyde 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Boy...choices choices choices.

Could you talk to your school counselor and a therapist? The drinking and driving stuff is not good, nor is your mother with the drugs (thankfully off the last seven months).

Hopefully she continues doing so.

I do kind of like your idea. What do they think? Could you get them both together and explain your ideas?

Best,

Clyde

Written by bellacutie 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

The main thing that worries me about your Grandmother, is the driving while drinking - don't get in the car if she's been drinking. I agree talking to them both would be a good idea. I don't think it would hurt to give your mom a chance. Your mom should get some financial counselling to manage her money. Could you do some babysitting to make extra money for yourself? If things don't work out with your mom - talk to your school counsellors. I hope you will never make the same mistakes as your mom/grandmother have with drinking and drugs. Best of luck, Bella

Written by Chemar 32 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

so sorry to hear that you are having to deal with so much in your young life

I agree that your idea sounds good...to divide your time between the 2 homes and that way you wont have to be with grandma when it is schooldays, but also have that break from being with your mom during the weekends.

I do hope things work out for the best for you and that all this will help you to never make the same mistakes with drink and drugs.

stay in touch please and let us know how things are going :)


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