My sister had a disagreement with our mother. Hurtful things were said, both over reacted. Then friends of my sister became involved. Long story short it resulted in assault charges on my mom filed by my sister’s friend. This coming after verbal insults was tossed towards my mother. Apparently I have heard multiple sides of the story; from my mom, from my brother (who heard it from my sister), from my father, even my sister. No one seems to be on the same page but my mom and dad. In fact the story my sister told me wasn’t the same she told my brother. Now according to my parents they refused to let my sister drive being so upset with her children in the car and wanted her to calm down first. According to my sister my parents we abusing her, her children and holding them hostage.
Anyways she finally left with her friends. Now the couple she lives with I don’t trust. First off they seem to be controlling her every actions although my sister would say they are not. During the time period this all happened my sister was acting all depressed, and I almost expected a suicide threat from her because of it. But her roommates insisted she has never been happier. In fact she lived in constant fear of her family growing up. Funny I don’t remember all of this at all. Yeah we had strict parents but hearing that she was never allowed to have friends over or do anything. Well I know that’s not true. She was more sociable then I was. Now she is going around stating that her parents abused her children. Which was funny because when I saw them at my wedding my nieces were healthy and in good spirits. Plus not terrified of my mother as my sister insisted they were.
Ok now according to my mother before this all happened the husband of the lady my sister lives with had “gotten into the bath tub” with the eldest of my nieces (she is six) not sure if he has shorts on or not but to me, well that’s just wrong. This man is a former Royal Canadian Mounted Police Officer with a criminal record for fraud, and theft. I have been told he carries around a large knife at all times as well. He is on medication for mental illnesses and has financial problems. Could he be using my sister for some reason? Is this why they seem to have such a hold upon her?
Now here is the latest. Apparently my sister has asked me to pick between her or the rest of the family. I live almost on the other side of the country from the,. Canada is a big place. I rarely see anyone as it is. What am I to do. I am seriously beside myself when it comes to this situation. She has already cut ties to all her friends except those she lives with because they refuse to pick sides.
This is not the girl I grew up with. I am scared for her and want to help her but feel that I can do nothing. I don’t even think she realizes the situation she is in. I wish she would come her, get herself away from everything going on and get a fresh start on life. There is a support system here in place or friends, and family. All who have not been involved with what had happened. She could get her life on track and way from these people but she well... wants to be with the people she lives with.
They have stolen my sister and changed her. I want her back. Help!
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