My younger sister is really a pain at this moment. She's now 20. I've been standing her for more than a year and and it's on going. I really did nothing to her to make her hate me or dislike me. I'm always very caring and loving when it comes to my younger sister. But for the past year, she's been gaining up against me and making me mad on purpose. It seems like she just hate me so much!


She purposely say things to me that makes me very angry and mad. For example, she tells me that I'm very ugly and If she was me, she would do plastic surgery! I told my older sister about this and she was very angry too because it's very obvious that she was only trying to take away my confidence. I really don't know why she would do that to me. I seriously never did anything wrong to her or make her feel left out. But she's paying me back with all those bittnerness. Sometimes she makes negative untruthful facts about me and tell her friends (especially boyfriends). I think she did that to prevent people from liking me before knowing me. She wants people to get a bad impression about me. Many of her friends, thinks that I'm a very terrible sister. But many of them are not true about me at all! Most of her friends, end up coming up to me and telling me that I find your younger sister rude. Whatever she said about you, I think she's just actually reflecting about her ownself. I found out that she also say mean things to her friends and make them ambarrassed. For example, my younger sister is now 20 years old however, she just finished highschool. One of her friend goes to college and she told him that, "All my friends goes to Universities, none of them attends college". However, the friend who she was talking to goes to college. At the end, people end up knowning me and know that I'm not the person who she's been talking about. But the sad thing is, my dearest sister is backstabbing me everywhere and bad mouthing me to her friends.

When it comes to relationship. She has quite a history. Many of her boyfriends find her very difficult to handle. She makes the rules and the boyfriend has to follow. She has record of committing suicide for example, cutting her wrist, banging herself in the bathtub, jumping of the roof, run across the street when there are cars coming, and taking massive amount of tylenol cold. When she was 17, my mother let her boyfriend to live at our house which was seriously, the biggiest mistake. She did abortion before. Quite a few of her ex-boyfriends tells me that she seriously has a problem. She ignores the problem in a relationship and pretends that everything is okay when it's not. If the boyfriend is upset about something, she dont' want to know about it. One of her ex-boyfriend told me that "she told him to kiss her when I'm watching". However, the boyfriend did not do that because he doesn't understand why. Later, he found out that because she wants me to get jealous of her because she has someone to love. But from the other 4 boyfriends, she is seriously troublemsome!


When it comes to friendship, there's also a lot of jealousy happening. She doesn't let me get to her friends much. However, on the other hand, she calls my friends out and not inviting me. She does not say it directly but she does say things to make my friends feel that I'm not a good person. If we had a common friend, she would always call them out and not telling me about it. I remember once, I found out that she was going to dinner with our mutual friend; she was really mad at the person who told me. I really don't understand!

She never helps me with anything. We both are very into music. If I play a piece and I wanted some suggestion, she would not tell me. However, once, a friend wanted help to improve their skills, she helped that friend! I've heard from people that your sister thinks that your not talented and that you'll do bad in performances. I even heard things like, she would fail to succeed in any contest!

HELP! She's really getting onto my nerves. I can't stand this anymore. She's been like this for more than a year now and I feel very upset. I am starting to go crazy because she like a bomb and you would never know when would it explode. Please, what can I do to stop this? Should I talk to her? But she is very stubborn. What is wrong with her? I'm getting worried.


Answers


Chemar
1751 days ago
have you discussed all this with your mother?

If your sister is attempting suicide and behaving that erratically, she needs professional help

I hope you will be honest with your mother about what has been happening and that she will get your sister into therapy.



Karina_Wu
1750 days ago
I really don't know what triggers her to have this terrible behaviour of hers. It's really frustrating!



bella
1750 days ago
I agree you should speak with your mother about her behavior. It's sound like your sister needs counselling. Do you still live at home? You could tell your sister if she can say anything nice, not to talk to you.



Karina_Wu
1750 days ago
I told my mother about everything. However, because she's a spoiled kid through her life, she don't even listen to my mom. My mother lost the control over her. She's been drinking and driving recently. Many times, she end up drunk and cannot drive and her friends drove her home. My mother didn't even yell her at all. When she asked about it, my sister said that she didn't drink!



Karina_Wu
1750 days ago
I told my mother about everything. However, because she's a spoiled kid through her life, she don't even listen to my mom. My mother lost the control over her. She's been drinking and driving recently. Many times, she end up drunk and cannot drive and her friends drove her home. My mother didn't even yell her at all. When she asked about it, my sister said that she didn't drink!



Clyde
1749 days ago
It may be due to what you are saying in your last post--your Mom has lost control over her and your Mom seems to not want to come to terms of her drinking and driving and stuff.

Is there a dad in this equation at all? Other family members you could talk to that might be able to help you ease the situation?

Best,

Clyde



Karina_Wu
1749 days ago
My parents are in the worst situation. They are basically divorced. My sister hates my dad and they don't communicate anymore.