Avatar Posted by Invisible231 43 days ago (Question)
Well my friend, Sarah, has always been very close since the 4th Grade. She's always been so helpful, nice, and very fun! Like any other friend out there! But now it's 7th Grade, and things are changing. Not her, but well kinda. Like her social life basically! She's starting to get like all this attention,cuz she has a really cool older sister, who happens to be on the dance team and stuff. I try talking to her but like the "populars" tend to crowd her too much. Even like my other friends, they don't really like me. I bet they just only need SARAH! It seems like they don't enjoy me as well. Also there's this STUPID rumor going around that "bla bla" like Sarah, and Sarah likes "BLA BLA" so "theyre" always trying to make a big fuss about it! I don't give a fuggin crap about this anymore! If things don't change, I DO NOT WANNA BE HER FRIEND! I hate the fact that things can change! Well ya know what??! Ima go make something change if THIS doesn't change! Any really big information, or advice I can get out there? Something that wont exactly mess up our friendship? HELP! :'(


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Written by Chemar 43 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

I have been trying for a few hours to find the right words to answer you.

honestly, each time I read your post my reply is the same....if she is your friend, why are you not happy for her? it sounds to me like you are envious and disliking her because others like her?

I know it is hard when one doesnt feel as popular as someone else....but if you are a true friend, you wont be angry at *her* for it....she doesnt sound like she is doing anything bad to you at all.

I hope being able to vent here about it made you feel a bit better tho

Written by bellacutie 42 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Good advice from Chemar. I have 2 girls 7 and 11 - it's very interesting the way girls interact compared to boys. There's a whole complicated hierarchy that goes on with girls. My daughter had a hard time in grades 4 and 5 - it was very frustrating as a mother.

I would agree it sounds like you're jealous of your friend and you resent the popular crowd. You're probably also feeling insecure because you feel your friendship is being threatened by other girls taking your place. I think you should talk to your friend nicely and tell her how you feel. Remember it's possible for your friend to have other friends in addition to you. Maybe you should branch out and make some new friends too - it doesn't mean you need to forget about her. I always tells my girls to have several friends and not just one friend. The reason I say this is if one day that friends mad, then you would have anyone else to hang out with. Try to be happy that your friend is well liked because it's not good to be jealous of people. It's normal for relationships to change. You sound like you're down on yourself by saying your other friends don't really like you. Just be a good person, develope your own good points and people will gravitate to you. This is a great time in your life so enjoy it.

Written by Clyde 41 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I definitely would talk to her too. You do sound down on yourself.

I agree too--why not be happy for her? Let her know that you still want to be her best friend--if she is your friend, you have to let her know.

Best,

Clyde


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