Avatar Posted by crystal 324 days ago (Question)
Where would you start looking to see what
would be wrong with a father who
identifies more with his birth family
than the one he created? His nephews can
do no wrong and he openly is interested
in all of their activties and shuns his
own children.


Answers

Written by Edahn 324 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

You could start by seeing why he shuns his own children. Can you offer some examples?

Written by crystal 323 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

thank you Edann for answering me. i think

i know some of the reasons.my husband is

four years younger than his brother and

he worked in the business with the

brother and the nephews. the brother

bullied him his whole life so i think

it was an esteem problem and a form of

stockholm syndrome. he died and we are

trying to find out what it could have

been for closure.the children are in

their 30's.some examples of the shunning

-his son would tell him a good interest

rate and he would repeat it to us like

nephew had told him. he would buy the

type of car they were interested in---he

would go for a boat ride and talk to them

and act like his children did not exist.

back at the cottage he would tell the

nephews improvements he might make and

leave the boys out. and lastly he bought

a cad program for the nephew to try and

he could not do it--so the son did it

while he was at work---he came home said

WHO DID THIS??? he was ready to say how

great the nephew was. i said you son and

he just threw it down like it didn't

exist. maybe that was just they type of

man he was and wanted to be. thank you.

Written by Clyde 318 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

It sounds like it is bothering you a lot as well. Perhaps he feels he owes them something?

Best,

Clyde

Written by crystal 318 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

thank you clyde for answering me-and yes it does bother that his children tried so hard life by getting good grades and staying out of trouble and trying to make him proud and he identified with nephews who know how to work him with buzz words.


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