My older brother and I have never really got along. As a matter of fact we can't live under the same roof and if we are even under the same roof for an hour we'll get into a terrible row. It's mostly because he makes fun of me and belittles me. I've told him some personal things about my life because he's my brother and we've both suffered abuse by the hands of our mother. His was when we were both young and my mother would hit him for various 'infractions'. When I was young I was her favorite, but once my parents split and I went to live with her... the roles switched. My brother became her favorite and I her scapegoat for everything. I've told my brother about the things she did and about another incident where I was sexually assaulted by an acquaintance. When I first told him he said the assault 'wasn't that bad'. My brother takes these things I've told him and uses them against me. He acts and insinuates that I exaggerated all my mother's abuse. I didn't exaggerate. My mother would call me worthless and stupid, would threaten me and on occasion hit me.
I'm currently living with my father (I'm almost 18)and he's living in his own place down the street. However whenever he's over for supper he treats me badly and I end up running to my room and locking the door to get away from him. I can't cry however... because he used to make fun of me when I cried and my mother used to scream at me not to cry when she would verbally/emotionally abuse me.
Does anyone have some insight on why my brother acts this way towards me and why he continually treats me as if my feelings don't matter and thinks I'm just exaggerating things? He of all people should know what our mother is capable of, so I just don't get why he acts like this towards me?
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