My son, he's 13. I can't stand him anymore. Every time he talks to me I can't wait for him to stop so I can get away from him. Everthing about him irritates and depresses me.
When he was 6 months he started rocking his head into walls. Doctors said he was fine..
When he was 3 he started acting ADHD, but doctors said "can't diagnose at that age. He's just energetic"
@ 4 he still wasn't potty trained despite 2 years of effort and would try to eat his poop and drink his pee.
@5 he pretended to hang himself in his room and I put him in a psych eval hospital for 3 weeks. THEY said he had ADHD and impulse control disorder the FIRST day. Gave him meds for that - which doped him and sent him home with a standing prescriptions and doc apts for the ucla psych center.
Years of doctors, counselors, special ed teachers, and a few years of meds (I took him off cause they were making him fat and ill looking and not helping) and still no REAL diagnosis or big progress.
Doctors say he doesn't have ADHD because he wacks out on those meds. He doesn't have bipolar because the meds for that cause a diff reaction. He's not autistic or retarded (very smart actually) not aspergers, not ANYTHING anyone can tell me, except "emotionally disturbed" which apparently 8 counselors over 8 years couldn't do squat with.
Now I am still stuck with a kid who pees his pants and doesn't mind sitting in it (and argues that he's done it even though you can SEE it), pushes his poop back in so he doesn't have to "go" smells ALLLL the time, pees behind his bedroom door on his dirty clothes,& runs out of underwear like kleenex!
Trying to get him to fix it or stop or anything is a royal pain in the butt and a battle.
He also "itches" anytime you talk to him, and has to squirm, clear his throat or SOMEthing. He's always having an "ouch" moment.. I think he bumps, bangs, drops and accidentally hurts himself more than a whole floor of psyche patients!
I'm SO INCREDIBLY tired. I don't have the heart anymore for this. I can't give him away obviously (I do still love him) and I don't want him to know how I feel but I don't see myself dealing with him anymore. As it is I feed him, let him read and play and watch movies and hope he doesn't come out of his room too much. I dred him waking up, talking, "ouching" moving, everything!
I feel terrible. and I feel heartless - I used to have so much love and energy
I can't get real help..I have no insurance (for me) I have no money (on the verge of eviction) so can't afford to pay for help nor do I have my own car and there are no buses where I live to get to anything if i could find it. Plus, I have no family here or friends (had to move to a cheaper state)
I do have a husband but he is not the father and doesn't help at all ( financially or raising) plus he has become very needy and dependent as well and can't stay employed So I am stuck with a loser husband, no money and working 18 hrs a day to pay the bills(barely) and take care of everyone. Everyone but ME
I'm on the verge of running away or putting MYSELF in a hospital. Need advice. WHAT does someone like me do?
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