Avatar Posted by lochnessy 48 days ago (Question)
What can I do to move on, forget about him, or even better get him back? I split up with my ex fiance back in 2005 and I still think about him every day. We had a great relationship full of love and passion, we even had our own place together while we were attending college and things were amazing. We had en talked about marriage and kids but weren't planning any of that until after college. He asked me to marry him when we finished college and after 2 years of being together he simply stopped coming home one night. He spent all of his time in a town 2 hours away from our home with his guy friend and they would just play video games all day every day. For a while I thought that there might have been something going on between them but that wasn't the case. He would always say that he already made the plans to play video games with said guy friend and that I was being annoying by not making plans in advance. He spent 2 months away from home and eventually I couldn't take begging him to come home and stay even just one night with me that I told him it was over. That got his attention and he rushed home after the third time I told him I was serious about ending things if he was never going to be around. By then I had already run into an old high school sweetheart and he and I had a fling that turned into something more. My ex fiance told me he would just move out of state to be with his parents if we weren't going to try to work things out. The whole two weeks leading up to him moving out he would tell me he loved me and snuggle me and try to be intimate with me and I gave in every time. He even bought me gifts and still called me his girlfriend. I wanted him to stay so bad but he didn't and I have only spoken to him once since he left and that was 4 years ago. I am still madly in love with him but I think he hates me and I'm not sure why since he was the one who left in the first place. He was the one who wouldn't come home to spend time with me. WHY can't I let this go?? I would give anything to be with him again! I've even been married (divorced) and have a daughter now and still can't let him go! I look up his name online constantly and just get this overwhelming feeling of sadness that washes over me and I sob and sob and sob. What makes things worse is I'm not certain if my ex husband is her real father. It might be this ex fiance. But he won't answer my phone call or emails or anything. I hadn't contacted him in 3 years and I sent him an email recently pouring my heart out to him. I really am in a pickle. What should I do??


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Written by Chemar 48 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi

I think you have done all you can do...you sent the email telling him how you feel. If he responds, you will know how he feels. If he doesnt, you just have to try to let it go, hard as that might be.

all you can do now is try to move forward and be the best you can for your child and yourself.

I hope things work out for you

Written by lisserbaby123 48 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

if you didnt send that e-mail too long ago you just gotta wait till he responds if not then you know where he stands and you should just move on.

Written by lochnessy 47 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Thanks guys. I guess that is all I can do. I almost feel like I'm stalking him. Not physically but it's almost an obsession. Is there anything you think I can do for myself to get over him?

Written by lochnessy 47 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Oh yes. I forgot to mention that I sent the email a little over a month ago and also called him and left a voice message. The last time I tried to send him an email all I received back was reply that said "..."

Every time I look at my daughter she begins to look less like my ex husband and more like my ex fiance. Same smile. Same face shape. Same nose. And her hair is lighter like my ex fiance's. My ex husband and I have very very dark hair. Should I still let it go even if I think she might be his?

Written by Clyde 45 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I do think you are obsessing a bit, yes. If he does not reply back to this email I definitely would let it go.

Are you, in your heart of hearts, HOPING that you daughter looks like your ex fiance, or do you really see the difference?

Best,

Clyde

Written by lochnessy 40 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Truthfully I am really hoping that she looks like him, haha. Perhaps this is one of those "best not to know" things. Thank you Clyde :)


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