Avatar Posted by curiousdude 523 days ago (Question)
Im not sure exactly how to ask this question..... Ive had a fetish for spandex and aggressive women (wrestling, working out) that i usually masturbate to. I tend to have problems with impotence with females, not all the time, but often enough to make a problem. Does anyone know if my fetish is affected my ability to create and maintain an erection with females? Also, more importantly, does anyone have a suggestion how i can work to absolve myself of this sexual fetish?

Thanks!


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Written by bean 523 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

counseling is the answer, yes an embarrassing problem, but it will be worth the hard work!!

Written by Clyde 522 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Hi there curious...

Yes, it can be. You can become so attached to the fetish, the pictures, etc., that it is hard to focus on a living, breathing human being.

You are used to and "conditioned" into seeing the women "set up" the way you want them to be, so if you find a woman in real life, and she isn't exactly like you "picture" (no pun intended) her to be, you have a problem obtaining an erection, or keeping one.

You do need to visit with a counselor or a sex therapist who can help you better.

Best,

Clyde

Written by misscris 265 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

The true concept of a fetish, any fetish, is that it is needed in order to achieve full sexual arousal. It sounds like you have a fetish if your desire for spandex and aggressive women is affecting your sexual behaviors (and it sounds more like it is rather than an *if it is*).

Fetishes, while greatly looked down on by the general population, can be somewhat healthy provided that both parties involved are aware of the fetish, take any necessary health precautions, and are completely consentual with the practice. If you found a woman who enjoyed wearing spandex and wrestling, she wouldn't mind your fetish... would she?

The problem arises when both parties are not into the fetish and then the sexual relationship begins to fail. Now, as others have said, there are ways through counseling where you can attempt to eliminate your fetish or just turn it into something that turns you on, not necessarily a fetish.

If you are not in a relationship then that means you have the option to finding a woman who is into the same things you are; however, if you are married or in a committed relationship, then the fetish can really cause some problems if she's not into it.

I wish you luck!

Cris


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