i have been with my boyfriend for 8 months. when we started dating we couldn't keep our hands off of each other. Now that we have moved in together he has decided he now wants to wait before we have sex again and he wont tell my why. i cant get him to talk to me about anything.
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darby, I'm sorry to hear the relationship has somewhat soured. It happens. Couples don't realize that moving in together do often end up with a worse relationship than before, and not better.
It could be that you have both taken the relationship for granted and all the spice is out of it. It could also be that you've become so intimate that you realize you don't really like each other? It's best to like each other first, before engaging in acts of love.
It will take both of you working on this, and it could be you need to begin again, and that might include NOT living together.
Good wishes
drjean
Hi Darby,
It does seem like you are doing things correctly. Is it partly that he is just tired from work?
Do you have any inclination of what it could be?
You may try to take him out on a "date," with just the two of you, having fun like you used to do. Perhaps he feels that things have changed since you moved in together.
Talk to him some more, and see if you can get him to open up.
Best,
Clyde