I have been seeing this guy since December 08 and he would call me and we would meet up but it was always at his home and he never wanted to do anything together like go out to eat or even for a drink it was just at his house. So he asked me how come hanging out at my house is not good enough for you anymore? I told him that I wanted to do other things than just hang out and have sex. He says that he is not ready for a relationship but, maybe down the road.He was supposed to meet up with me and he nver took my call and I left him a voice mail I see how you are goodbye. He never called me again. That was in May I gave it 2 months and could not take it anymore so I broke down and called him left him two messages to please call me and I sent him two emails saying that I was sorry but, I just wanted him to take my calls, I was disappointed when he did not answer my call and that all I wanted was to spend time with him. He won't answer my emails or calls. I did send him a goodbye letter to have closure on my part but think about him all the time and wonder what I did that was so terrible for him never to respond to me. No matter what I always took his calls and answered his emails. Help
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Kross, Yes, I know it's hard because YOU apparently invested yourself emotionally in this relationship, but it seems like he clearly did NOT invest himself, and was
just taking an advantage of your interest in him. It is NOT your fault that he doesn't/didn't truly love and respect you. It's time to move on. You deserve better!!
Hey Kross,
Ok I agree 100% with Clyde. This guy seems like a true opportunist. What a jerk. Think of it this way, there are millions of other men on earth that would truly want to be with you (TRULY)! This is a fact. Why waste the 1 life you were given on someone like that.
TIME IS MONEY
STOP WASTING TIME!
Hi KRoss
It could be very well that this guy is just an opportunist, who really doesnt care how you feel at all. It does sound a lot like, sadly, that all he is interested in is sex.
Look at what you have told us: you met him at his house. He never went out with you. You told him you wanted to do more than just hang out with each other at his house and have sex.
Then, he stops talking to you, which is totally unfair to you. You need the closure that he is not willing to give you. So, you basically have to bring about your own closure to the relationship.
Burn all of his letters, delete his cell number from your phone book.
I know you probably want him to "turn around," but it definitely appears that this will not happen in that manner.
I am sorry that you are still grieving over him, but it appears that no matter how much time you give him, he never will come back.
Best,
Clyde