My husband had one with a coworker. He has gone 4 weeks w/out talking to her, but said it is so hard they have feelings for each other. He is not thinking about me and our 3 children! I never saw it coming I thought we were fine and I love him with all of my heart and he ask me to let him go. I am devastated because I can't stop loving him. I do forgive and we are going to counseling but he does not open up there. Will he ever love me again? Is it really love he can have for her with no physical contact.
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Sorry, but there's no such thing, imo, for a guy to have an "emotional" affair. Maybe a separation is in order. Have a talk and discuss the financial aspects of a separation. Also discuss couples counseling. See if he wants to also work out the marriage, or if it's still all about him.
good wishes
drjean
Wow--I really do agree with Onous...it is so true...I would let him see what it is like without you.
I feel sorry for the 20 year old. She is so young compared to him and he may just be excited about her because of her age, not because of who she is.
I would definitely talk to him about it, and let him know that you are not a push over, but you would give him a chance. But, if he doesnt stay right this time, I wouldnt not let him come back. He's just using you in that way...hopefully counseling works wonders.
Best,
Clyde
I was just afraid to give him space, I feel that I might push him to her. I did email her and she said he is an adult let him decide who he wants to be with. She is 20 and he is 34!
You can either try and win him back (if he is truly worth it) or you can let him go and find out what its like without you and see if he doesn't come running back... he might never have stopped loving you and might just be to spoiled by your love... give him some space and see what he does to find your answer of love.