OK, I'm going out with this girl who i really like, and she wants me to open up to her. That is by far my biggest problem. Like i don't even know what means, it like not even in my vocabulary. Yeah its telling her how you feel right? Well I've already tried that. For example I am on the phone with her and after the usual how was your day, what you do today, and you know the usual stuff like that. I have already talk about my family and told her stories about my past. SO really what does opening up mean, I am super confused, and I don't really know how to just let it happen, or your emotions will do it or something like that sort
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Most women don't realize that guys just don't usually sit down and talk like women do! Not TO women that way, and often men need to be doing something like shooting hoops or such to be able to talk about "things" going on at work or hobby.
Yes, you need to ask her what types of things she needs you to talk about, and to be sure those are things you want to share at this point. It could be that she feels she does all the "sharing" and the conversation is one-sided. This might make her feel you aren't listening, or that you don't really care to be a part of her life.
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drjean
Hi there. Perhaps the best way to start is just start today. Tell her how your day went, how things at work/school were, etc.
She will then probably ask you questions about that, and you can build from there. After awhile, it will become easier (if you want to do so) to discuss past things with her, and you can have more practice with it by then.
Best,
Clyde
You'll probably have to ask her what opening up means to her specifically. My guess is that she is talking about sharing emotions. This would mean emotions about the present as well as the past, just in talking about your day and your life. She may also mean that she wants you to talk about how you feel about her. Of course you may want to take that last part slowly, so you don't jump into things and don't expose yourself to hurt. But talking about what she means about "opening up" is also a way of opening up. Getting to know each other better in that way is also a way of finding out how compatible you are. Best of luck.