Why can't I be sincere towards him. I dread coming home sometimes All he does is criticize me and I want to know why I can't just cut him loose. We don't do anything together anymore,don't know what else to try. Help me
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(((Nativegrl))) I hope you are reading here to see our encouragement. ;)
Marriages do hit lulls, often during the first 15 years!
I'm sure he has reasons as to why he is criticizing you instead of acting upon what is frustrating him. If neither of you can figure it out, then why not seek out a couples therapist, or life coach?
Some couples find that beginning from the beginning again helps. By this I mean, go back to dating! Schedule a date each week and keep it. No negative talking allowed, no criticizing nor discussion of issues in your regular lives. But try to recall some of the great topics of interest you used to discuss before you settled into the day to day.
It could be just the spark that reunites you two.
Take care.
drjean
Hard to see into your head but when someone is bad for you you have to have the esteem to let that bad thing go.. You kinda hate yourself, worried you'll never find someone and willing to settle for what? There is not love when there is criticism unless it is meant to lift. Tearing apart your self esteem makes him bigger, better... want to be a stepping mat all your life? Your better off without... leave before you loose your looks and can't attract a bear. ;)
Hi (((NativeGirl)))
Are the feelings more that you have fallen out of love with him period, or is it more that he has been bothering you and upsetting you and you just cannot let go?
Are you worried about being alone? Is that a big part of your issue?
Have you talked to a T about this, or to a close family friend? Have you talked to him about it at all?
Best,
Clyde