I am sexually attracted to younger girls. I'm only 18 myself and have had these thoughts for about 2, maybe 3 years.
I'm well aware that it's not natural. And that's why I need help. I can't talk to anyone face to face as it is something with a bit of a stigma attached to it. So I finally decided to take action, anonymously. I've never touched a child, and I never will. I have the mental strength to withstand the temptations. I'm a fairly normal person, although I do occasionally get very depressed and romanticise with the idea of suicide. So, please help me!
I'm well aware that it's not natural. And that's why I need help. I can't talk to anyone face to face as it is something with a bit of a stigma attached to it. So I finally decided to take action, anonymously. I've never touched a child, and I never will. I have the mental strength to withstand the temptations. I'm a fairly normal person, although I do occasionally get very depressed and romanticise with the idea of suicide. So, please help me!
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Hi there Samson...
You really do need to go see a professional therapist/psychologist/counselor about these feelings.
When you say younger, also, there can be younger (in your case) like ages 14-16, or it could be really younger like whatever to 13...
I am glad to see you say you have never touched a child, but you really need to talk to a therapist to help you with these feelings you are having.
I can understand your feelings of suicide, because pedophilia is not considered normal, and since you don't feel normal (even though you mention "fairly normal"), you are trying to find that moral compass somewhere.
You probably feel that things would be better solved if you weren't alive, so you wouldnt possibly hurt someone. But the absolute best thing to do is to seek help with a therapist/counselor/psychiatrist.
And, please, be sure to not be around children alone, either. Its for their safety, as well as your own.
Best,
Clyde
I think you are very brave for facing up to this possibility and acknowledging that it would be very wrong to act on it. Not everyone with these possible inclinations is so brave. I agree that you need a careful, well-informed therapist -- not someone who will just be shocked and tell you that you are wrong, but someone who will help you think about the situation and how to express your sexuality in healthy ways. In the meantime, I think it's clear that sexual inclinations can either be reinforced or diverted. Not that it's easy to decide to be this or that. But you can be very careful not to reinforce your inclinations to think about unsuitably young people sexually. And if you find yourself noticing some desire for more suitable sexual partners, do what you can to dwell on and reinforce those desires -- fantasize about those women all you like! Sometimes more grown-up sexual partners are intimidating for young people. In case that's true for you, remember that women are just as unsure and hesitant as men are, and if they project an air of confidence, arrogance, or dismissiveness, it's because they are deep-down unsure of themselves. Trust me, this is so true! I know that feeling confident with adult women is not the only obstacle in developing adult relationships, but I thought I'd throw that in there because generally women try to seem super-confident and unapproachable. So do what you can to develop relationships, even friendships, with women your own age, to keep you anchored; and do find a therapist in whom you feel comfortable confiding. The very best of luck to you.