My girlfriend has adhd, anger management issues, lost her brother almost a year ago in a tragic accident, is depressed, and has told me she needs her space. She rarely talks to me, doesn't answer my calls, and rarely returns my texts. It's been four months, and she won't seek help for her problems even though her parents and I have encouraged her to. She talks to other guys, and some of her friends, but I feel left behind. When I ask her if we're still together, she doesn't even respond. I've been very patient, but nothing is changing. I given her space for a while now, but she continues to be distant. I'm confused, losing trust, and she won't communicate with me.
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Cardinal,
I hate to say it, but I wonder if there is any relationship there at all left. I would much rather tell you different, of course, but from what you have said, that she wont really talk to you, that she doesnt do hardly anything with you--that has me worried.
ESPECIALLY with the idea that others are getting to talk to her.
I guess the main thing would be to ask her "dead on" if you and her are a couple any more, and if she wants to split. I know you dont want to do so, but if she doesnt want to be around the relationship anymore, its not healthy for either of you.
I really hope that she just is going through the rough time (you know what I mean, I dont mean literally going through it) and just cant talk to you at the moment. If that is the case, just ask her if that is that, and give her some more time.
I really wish the best for you and her...