I started dating this guy a while ago and thing were great. He told me that he was falling for me and I was falling for him but then a mutual friend of ours started telling him that I didn't like him and that I was cheating on him and then she told me that he was cheating on me. He and I tried to work through this but eventually we broke up. A few months later he and I got together and things were good once again. He told me again that he was falling for me and that he hadn't liked anyone as much as he did me. The mutual friend was out of the picture and things were good. But then another mutual friend came between us playing him and I against each other. We were good for a while and then I went to my exs to get some of my stuff. Well the mutual friend told the guy I was dating at the time that I went to my exs to get some stuff and it hurt his feelings and we eventually broke up. I still have feeling for him. I really do. I want to be with him but I don't know how he feels. I tried to call him right after we broke up but we didn't talk. I think it was too soon for us to talk. We did this the last time we broke up. We went about 2 or 3 months without talking or anything and then we got back together. I know that most on again, off again relationships don't work but I know some that do. I want to be with him I really do. I like him alot. I think I may even be in love with him. I just don't know what to do. I've been told that since I'm the one that iniated the breakup that he's waiting for me to call him. What do I do? How long do I keep trying with him before I give up?
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well see you mention these friends who keep getting involved in your guys relationship they dont belong there tell them to butt out ok now for 1 this all started from wht i understood becuz basically rumors of cheating on both ends well thts just is rumors do ruin relationships as you may know the 2 of you no 1 else needs to be involved becuz tht just brings more drama to the table
maymie, you haven't shared you approximate ages, nor how long is "a while." Things are different if they are long term, like years, or not so long, say over a year's worth of time.
I think you both need to keep the communication going. In fact, I think it was lack of communication that broke you up each time; lack of communication between the two of you.
It might be good in the future for you both, should you get back together, to reevaluate the level of maturity of your "mutual friends." They don't sound like real friends to me, who would naturally be supportive of both of you, and your relationship.
It sounds like there's hope here, and something more than fleeting caring, since you both keep thinking about and coming back to each other.
Why not agree to really work on the relationship and see if it is to be, then if not, you will both know you gave your all, and you will both know what you need in a future relationship. And of course, if it works out, you will have a strong relationship!
TC
drjean
(((Maymie)))
It is always a case-by-case basis in relationships dear. Do you feel, as you said, that you do want to be back with him? If so, I would call him and fight for him at every step and opportunity.
If you are thinking that you may break up again after this, what does that say about your relationship? Are you feeling that you could break up again or are you just insecure about the chance of it happening again?
I hope that the answer is the one that brings you the best in your relationships!
Best,
Clyde