I've been married for close to ten years and recently my husband has started asking for sexual activity that we've never engaged in before. He's making it a part of every encounter and I am concerned there is a problem developing.
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mnlewis, the new ideas he has are coming from somewhere, I agree. Whether it is from sharing any frustration he might, with the guys at work, or whether he is viewing porn in some form, it does appear that he needs more excitement in this aspect of your lives.
How is everything else going in the marriage? Usually the first thing to deteriorate (and it leads to the rest following ) is communication. I know it will be difficult at best to try and discuss this as adults if there's a communication barrier, but guaranteed you will have his attention if you can talk about it without condemnation or accusation.
What might be an interesting experience for both of you is to see a sex therapist. They don't just help with the physical act, but with the underlying emotional and psychological needs beneath. Good wishes!
drjean
Hi...
Is it possible that he just wants to try out new things? Have you discussed this issue with him?
If it is completely different, yes, I would recommend talking to him about it or a T. If this offends you (the sexual acts) or bothers you, your husband has to know, because sex needs to be enjoyable for you too, not just for him.
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Hmm... do his actions make you uncomfortable? Maybe it's just a phase for him, or maybe he just wants sexual activity more. If it concerns you, you could either talk to him about it, or a trusted friend or family member, maybe a counsellor.
I hope it works out for ya!
Leanne