For the past 2 weeks my boyfriend and I have been going through a rough stage. I had a girl (whom I do not know) send me conversations of her and my boyfriend texting. I was upset and confronted him. He admitted it though he does not know her and she got his screen name through a mypace page. Although he did not cheat, (that I know of) the way he wrote to her hurt me just as much. Recently, we have been fighting over everything.I am trying to move on from this set back. Our relationship before this was always great and I never saw any signs of unhappiness from his part. He says that he is happy with me and this was just an immature thing he will never do again. I feel like we both feel like we're on eggshells with one another. Any minute another fight will come up about something stupid. I'm afraid we are going downhill. Do you suggest anything that could help?
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i dont believe in cheating especialy being married phhh yeah i know some time you want to leave it alone but keeps coming up dont argue talk and if it gets to harsh and you feel like exploding or he gets angry take a break and come back to it angry does not solve your problems make's it worse k yeah i would question how loyal he is to you if he is talking with other girls
You are very welcome! I hope that it works out!
Best,
Clyde
Hi (((jj)))
To me, it would definitely help (while I know you do not want to argue) to discuss this out. You surely do feel violated and cheated on (even though you say you don't) because it is a continued thing of worry for you.
No one should have to think about their spouse or significant other possibly even thinking of cheating on them, ever, so I definitely understand how you feel.
Unless you both (or one of you) attend counseling, and could find a way to get the other in there with you, I would at least discuss it. It seems to me, while it is admirable to not to want to hurt each others feelings, you are just avoiding it, and avoiding it (the problem issue) is almost as bad as letting it happen over and over, each and every day.
Best,
Clyde
Thank you clyde. I will suggest counseling hoping he will agree. I think if the relationship is worth fighting for we will do what needs to be done.
thank you =]