For some time now I have been experiencing something that I would explain as severe anxiety before sex. I am a 28 year old female and in a committed relationship and we have been together for @ 2 years now. It's hard to explain how I feel in the evenings and it does happen the majority of the time....but I will get extremely anxious a few hours before we go to bed. I almost fear the idea of having sex. I already have general anxiety and panic attacks but this makes it so much worse. I know it can't be normal to fear being intimate with the person I love so much! And I don't have much of a sex drive at all. Right now, it would be okay with me if we didn't have sex at all. Why would I feel that way?
I'm too embarrassed to talk with friends about it. I have so many medical problems that I can't get answers to. I have been sick and seeing doctors frequently for years now. I take pain and anxiety medication. Just last month I did speak to my primary care doctor about being depressed and I thought that an anti-depressant would help with how I feel about everything including how I feel regarding sex. He has prescribed me Pristiq but I haven't started it yet. I will be starting it as soon as my pharmacy gets it in.
I just thought that sending my question/problem out into the world might make me feel a little better and maybe I could get some feedback. I feel alone. Is there anyone who feels at all like I do? Am I the only one who dreads going to bed and being intimate with their significant other? Thank you for any help and feedback.
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