Avatar Posted by gggrinch 47 days ago (Question)
I am in a 7 yrs relationship with my boyfriend and I am currently living with him again for the second time after living a year apart in between.But we have only lived together for a total of a year and 3 months or so.I have been ambivalent about our relationship from the start. I was however with another man who was my husband for over 13 yrs and was forced to leave him out of self preservation.I am also very bored in our relationship a lot of the time.He is respectful, kind, generous, very independent,a good male roll model for my 2 girls,and trust worthy, but very quite,low on affection and compliments, and the words "I love you" I only hear from him on the phone about once a month now.I have lost confidence in this relationship but rather was fully a confident person when I first met him and in my last relationship. "So why am I so ambivalent in this relationship?"


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Written by bellacutie 47 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

You say you were ambivalent of this relationship from the start - was this because you weren't in love or because you sensed a problem. I hesitant to tell you to work on it because of this ambivalence. If he were to change and become more loving would this change how you feel? If you think it would, then you need to calmly talk to him and tell him what you need - he would also need to be forth coming with what he needs. Why were you ambivalent right from the beginning? How long did you wait to get involved from the previous 13 yr relationship? GL Bella

Written by Clyde 45 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Depends on how the relationship started and is progressing. You did say you were ambivalent of the whole thing at the whole beginning.

Have you talked to him about this, and how you feel?

Best,

Clyde


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