Avatar Posted by deepak87 47 days ago (Question)
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Written by katrineme7 46 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

This question is really difficult to answer for you, as only you yourself can answer this question truthfully yourself. meaning, only you yourself knows your truth about how you feel about her now and it's not something you can rationalize with 'should's', or by asking us. Guilt is not a good reason to want to get back with her, and you must remember the 'good' and the 'bad', both, and together.

These years between 15 and 19 are years when many of us feel deeply, and fall in love deeply, but we also are still growing and changing and experiencing life and relationships with new and different people. You are not really ready to make a full commitment, or in any way supposed to. Many people are never ready, or it is never forever. Your relationship while it lasted was true, right, and that you should remember. Don't discard the good.

And then it's also not all or nothing. You may want to talk with her just because you care and want to find out how she has been, and talk about what happened, but this should not be based on a decision you have made, or are making, that you are sure that you want to get back together, but just 'because'.

You both don't even know each other any longer, and both of you have changed, and if you do speak to her it must be almost like a first date again, and getting to know each other but of course only if that is mutual.

You have been away for a long time and long distance relationships don't work. if nothing else, they are more of a fantasy than anything else.

I also think you do know in your heart, and from what I hear you saying between the lines, you sort of know it's over and if you met another girl now that you really liked, you probably would not even be thinking about her.

What also makes me believe this is about when you said how happy that year was when you 'let go' of her. That should tell you something.

Anyway, try searching your soul and also try to place yourself in her position. It is amazing what you what you can know this way that you never thought you could. The other option is to find out but without strings attached in any way. You may even end up just being friends?

Best,

KAT

Written by bellacutie 46 days ago Rating: 1 | Rate Answer: + -

I think you recieved very good advice from Kat. I think it would be a great idea to just be friends for now - get to know each other again. I agree with Kat - that people change alot during that time in their lives. Best of luck.

Written by Clyde 44 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

Just stay friends for the moment--you never know what can happen later on, but if you stay friends for the moment, at least it can get better.

Best,

Clyde


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