Background: My boyfriend says he wants to be my support and my shoulder. He says he loves me (I was his first love 32 year ago and we reconnected), that he cares for me and wants to be there for me no matter what. We have good times, we laugh and joke and express love in many ways. He has troubles which he shares with me but he says little things such as "I want a strong woman in my life", "Ive had enough negative things in life and dont want any more" and "I really just want to communicate when are not feeling tension". Yet he turns around and says I can be vulnerable with him. I am confused...
Question: How can I be vulnerable with him without seeming to be weak? I have troubles, too and I cant figure out how to lean on him when I feel he will see this as weakness.
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