I have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. We have a strong loving relationship. We are both divorced from cheating spouses. About 2 years ago I was watching his 6 year old daughter and she wanted to play a computer game that she had played with her dad the night before. She didn't know the name so I went to history on the computer to find it and was I shocked at what I saw. There were about 8-10 dating websites and 20+ pictures and notes from women. You have to be a member on these sites to receive notes and pictures. I confronted him about it and first he denied it, then he said he was on them but not corresponding with anyone. I made a fake profile and he replied to it. So I knew he had lied to me. He told me that he had taken off all of his profiles from all the dating sites and I was fine with that and we moved on. He did tell me that I need to learn to trust him and others. A few weeks ago I came to his place for the evening. He was on the computer and I was there with him talking when I noticed emails from a dating site that informed him by name that he had a message. The particular dating site you have to have a profile to get messages. He said I get so many of these kind of messages all of the time. You should see how many I delete. I told him I could not go through another period in our relationship of him being on those sites. He told me I had no trust for anyone. That I really needed help with trust and when would he even have time to do anything because he was always with his kids or me. Again, it is on me because I saw something...He is a wonderful man in every way and I adore him. It is hard to erase the thought that he is looking at other women and dating websites are for dating aren't they? Is my relationship in jeopardy?
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