I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now, and we're both a few years into university. Before I met him, he used to do lots of drugs such as K and ecstasy. Although he stopped doing those in high school, he continues to only smoke pot... though he does quite a bit.
I am head over heels in love with him, and it makes it harder since I'm not one to do drugs (only on occasion). I haven't worried about his drug past because I considered it a phase; in fact I was actually kinda happy that he had already experimented with drugs so I wouldn't have to worry about him trying harder drugs now.
We had a conversation about this recently, and the fact I used the word "phase" really upset him. I told him that what he's done before has made him into the person today, the person that I love. Although it does intimidate me as I'm not one to do any of those drugs, as long as he doesn't do them again I really don't mind.
He got upset when I told him this because he thinks if I'm not happy with the fact that he used to do drugs, I can't love all parts of him. (Keep in mind he was 17 when he was doing these drugs, and now we're 20.)
I really do love him with all my heart. I know I'm not jumping off the walls happy he's done other drugs, but its a part of him who's made him who he is.
Is there any other way I can explain this to him so he will understand?
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