Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now, but over the last weekend I became extremely jealous of his new friend Kelli. Turns out, they ended up sleeping together. Kelli has a boyfriend, but Brandon and I broke up right before he had sex with Kelli. But even though we're broken up, he still wants us to act like we're dating. He just wants to have more than one.
I actually love Brandon, so I'm crushed that
1) He's not happy enough with just me, and has to turn to someone else, and
2) that the only way I can stay with him is if I share him.
I am spiraling downward tearing myself up about this. I feel like it's my fault because of my jealousy. Every day I've been having breakdowns, including one in class today in front of everyone. He says he still loves me and doesn't want me to go away, but he still wants Kelli.
I adore Brandon. So I'm really confused as to what to do. It kills me that he's doing this to me, and that I'm letting him. But I never want to lose him. Even just being friends rips me up inside.
Should I cut off all contact with him? Should I stick with it and hope that he will get over this phase and return to the relationship we had before Kelli came around?
Please help me, I really don't know what to do.
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