Avatar Posted by 2manyshoes 475 days ago (Question)
Over the period of a 15 year marriage, my husband has always allowed his parents to call the shots and take over when they visit us. When we visit them, we always 'go with the flow' and avoid saying anything to upset them or 'make waves.' Now that we have kids (10 and 11), and I am working again, it has caused me extreme stress to operate under these conditions around his parents. On top of that, his mother has excessive anxiety which she does not receive treatment for. I finally refused to make the yearly trip to visit his parents and am receiving great criticism from my husband because of this. Dealing with his parents has created great stress in our marriage to the point that I feel it is adding to many reasons why I want to end our marriage. My husband also has anger issues, is controlling and also has anxieties - I'd just like to know if I'm the only person out there who feels this way and should I push my husband to get therapy for this? - he thinks he is fine.


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Written by Clyde 475 days ago Rating: 0 | Rate Answer: + -

I do think that some therapy may be beneficial. I really also think it would be important for your husband to understand he needs to act more as a grown up child, not as the child he used to be when he lived at home.

His parents should not call the shots for either of you.

Best,

Clyde


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